My girl friend dumped me last july and i still love her to this day. She was my first true love, but I feel like shes the only one for me out there, I went out with her for a year 1/2 but it felt like i knew her all my life, we had it all, but now she acts like i dont even exist anymore. I think about her everyday and it hurts. We did have some regular problems but we were so damn compatiable. she just gave up on me. By the way shes 17 and im 19. I feel like no one can replace her. I lost my dad when I was 16 and she filled in that spot when he passed away. I tell her this and she just doesnt understand me. what do i do
2006-10-30 08:23:09 · 29 answers · asked by Biela Tygrysa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey it just time to move on... maybe you dont want to hear this right now.. but this girl its doing something good she is letting you go before more time pass by and then you sure enough will be hurting.. I understand your dad passing away,he is still with you,just think of something he would say to you in a case like this by you knowing your dad,you know just what he would say.. and take it as good advice.. You will heal and lucky for you... you are a man and guys somehow seem to heal faster... have faith and you will see there is somebody out there who is just for you... and you will know as soon as you meet her.. leave the past alone and just give your heart sometime to get strength it will pass I promise.. good luck.
2006-10-30 08:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are going through this. It was actually scientifically prooven that when a person is dumbed it takes about half you were together to get over the person. Personally I believe that sometimes you never truly get over your first love. To me it seems that she moved on and you didn't. She is only seventeen and probably still in high school. She has different priorities than you do now. The best thing that you can do for her is to let her go. You cant ever convince her to fall back in love with you again. I know that a first love always seems like it was meant to be. That's why they call it a first love because you have never felt that before. You could be in love with many many more women in your life or maybe the next one is ''the one''. I would just try to move on with your life. Of coarse you will always think about her and she will always think about you. I still think about mine and its been years. I hope I could help.
2006-10-30 08:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by angel l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Bob! I am so sorry for your loss. It is just like losing a loved one when there is a break up. You have to grieve, Bob, the same way you grieved for your dad. I am sorry honey, but it is a cold fact. You can't go past the pain until you go through it. It will be worth it. She will always be your first love. She will always have a place in your heart. But guess what? You will have a place in hers too. She was ready to move on, and grow up, unfortunately she is 17 and your are 19, doesn't make it any easier, but both of you need to move forward and live life to the fullest. I hope for you that you will be able to take the very best of this relationship with you and not get bitter and cold. There is a lovely lady waiting for you to get over this and find her. You owe it to her and yourself to do that. Some people go to counseling to help get over a love. It is worth it to try. If you have a counselor at your school or a crisis line...give it a try. My heart is with you. I hope you find someone to talk to. Loves, Nana
2006-10-30 08:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come to the realization that this relationship is over, do not try to get her back, she does not want you. I am sorry to say it so bluntly, however, you will be wasting your time. You are a young man, and by staying stuck on the possibility of a relationship with someone who does not have the same feelings is keeping the door closed to someone who will be there and share your feelings. There are other girls in the world give them a chance. And perhaps you may consider getting involved in some grief counseling. Losing a parent especially at a young age is very difficult. I am sorry you lost your dad. You need to surround your self with loving and caring family and friends and try your best to move on. good luck and God bless
2006-10-30 08:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sad that you lost your girl. Be happy that you had her for the time that you did. You cannot replace your dad with anyone. I know she was there for you but you have to pick up the pieces and move on. There is someone else out there for you that will love you and never leave you. You are young and your first love will always hold a spot in your heart that noone can touch. Don't occupy your time thinking about what you lost. Move on, it will get easier.
2006-10-30 08:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my father passed away I was the same way with a girl and then we broke up about two years after my dad passed away. You cannot have someone fill the void of your father. He is such an important part that you will never be able to replace him. What is best for you is to be completely done with your ex, do not talk, do not text, don't do anything with her, move on. You are still very young and there are plenty of girls out there for you.
2006-10-30 08:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definelty tough to deal with but the reason why she is probably reacting this way is because you maybe put too much pressure on her when you told her that she filled the spot for your dad. Maybe she didn't know how to deal with this and felt somewhat uncomfortable with the situation. Have you dealt with that part of your life as far as the loss of your father? If not, I suggest that you seek some help with that without her so that she does not have that pressure on her. Give her some time and talk to her and let her know that you are dealing with your situation on your own so that the 2 of you maybe can move on together.
2006-10-30 08:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that you are so in love with someone, just use friends and family as a crutch they are there to help u she may just need some time to grow up try to stay in touch and maybe in a year or two you will be surprised to find she may feel the same way you do now
2006-10-30 09:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by JayNell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have heard this before, sweetie pie, but you have to move on.
Try to find interests that fill that void. Sports, reading, hobbies, clubs, groups, church,whatever. Spend this time of grief by growing personally and learning more about yourself. It happened for a reason.
You cannot control another person. Eventually ALL of us will experience what you are going through. You are not unique to human nature. Wheather by divorce, death, or just breaking up we all will have to walk the path you are going through now.
I have had to do it, and it was the worst experience of my life, but I am stronger and better for it, and I have some wisdom now so that I can help you through it.
You might also considering a counselor... sure couldn't hurt.
Peace.
2006-10-30 08:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain. i lost my dad when i was 9 and my mum filled that gap the best she could but its never completely filled. in life u have 2 loves ur first and ur great. is she with anyone else? maybe try to be her friend and have fun again and she might fall back in love with u. u seem like a nice guy so it shouldnt be hard.go out as friends something fun and excitin try new things, change urself for the better new clothes new hair cut, new thinkin, new attitude be excitin and mysterious. change urself becos u want to and u want her back.
(i would really like to help u, so email me if u need further help nat_c1985@yahoo.co.uk
2006-10-30 08:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by its blitz in uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋