I have been with my gf for nearly 12 months i have always loved my best friend hannah, it's got unbearable she seems 2 be all i think about i cant get her out of my head i do love my gf i care 4 her so much but i cant push hannah out of my head shes just always there i miss her all the time id give enything 2 have a chance with her BUT she also is ingadged to a boy for nearly 2 years she knows i like her and she said if she wasent with jay then she would but i just dont know when she drinks she says stuff but i dont think she means any of it im so confussed help me sum1 please xxxxxxxxxtatufan2006
2006-10-30 08:16:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your choices are to stay with your current g/f, who cares about you enough to make a commitment to you.... or break up with her to chase a dream with a girl that may not even be gay??? and only talks about it when she is drunk???
This would not be a tough decision for me. Put some distance between you and this friend that can only bring pain and drama into your life.
Unless you're into that.
2006-10-30 08:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by pammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - it's fine that you are a lesbian. Straight, gay, black, white, crippled, pear-shaped - GOD LOVES US ALL!! Good grief - look at all the hetero people who make babies and then don't love and nurture them. Is that what God had in mind???? I don't think so!!!!
Sorry - I just get so bent out of shape with these people who judge and do it in the name of God!
So - onto your question. It sounds like a very big mess. If Hannah is engaged - and you love her - then you want the best for her. That very well could be for her to get married and live happily ever after. You didn't say anything about her fiance' so I don't know about that. If she says things when she's drunk that lead you to believe she cares about you - that is not much to hang on to.
The situation is unbearable because you have allowed it to be. You cannot always control your feelings - but you CAN control your mind. It's time to do it. Sit down and THINK about what you are doing. Think about your gf and why you love her. Think about why you are so in love with Hannah. Think about what the right thing is for you to do. You know in your heart what the right thing is for you to do. It will be what feels right in your heart. It will probably not be what is easiest - very often it's not. But you KNOW what's right - so use your brain and your heart to figure out what it is - and then do it!
Good luck!
2006-10-30 08:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in love with my best friend, too, and he's bi, and he's engaged (and he's also my ex), but I'm single at the moment, so I don't have any dilemma, just the pain of knowing I can't ever have him back, but the comfort of knowing he still loves me and always will, and the happiness of knowing that he's happy, because he really deserves to be.
I don't know what to advise - your friend must make her own decision about her sexuality, and about her fiance, and you can't control that. It might be best to keep a bit of distance from her until she knows her own mind. If you know that you can never love your girlfriend the same way, it might be best to leave the relationship, unless you make a decision that you will NOT think about Hannah at all, and will clear the possibility out of your mind. Easier said than done, but if you come to the conclusion that you will never have Hannah for yourself, then it shouldn't prevent you having other girlfriends.
I hope you can work it out.
2006-10-30 08:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feelings are so strong for another, you should be honest with your girlfriend and respectfully end it with her. It will hurt, but it will be better than the double hurt of being deceived.
As for your best friend, I think you already know that the situation there isn't going to end well. She's probably bi, and the fact is it's easier to go the conventional route and make the accepted choice of marrying someone of the oppostie sex and just fool around with other women on the side. But that's not fair to you.
Someday you'll meet the right person for you, and when it's right your feelings for your friend will melt away, and your passion for your true love will burn even stronger than this present flame.
2006-10-30 08:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Steven S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because there is separation of church and state doesn't mean we can't base our lives and decisions on the Bible or Christ's teachings, we just can't pray in public schools in the morning before the bell rings, You are missing the main point of all of this, It clearly states in the Bible that homosexuality is not allowed in the kingdom of God, and it doesn't matter in the person is a homosexual, it matters if the person is an active homosexual, there is a difference, I have no problem being with gay people but I do have a problem with homosexual actions, it goes against my faith and my religion, I don't care if we live in a secular nation, I base my actions on Christ and Christ alone
2016-05-22 12:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if Hannah really loved you, she would have taken the step first like confessing it to her bf..she's just taking you for a ride...infatuations do happen when u're in a stable relationship but it does not mean you act on them..and rule #1, dont trust any bi girl..they can ditch you whenever it suits them....all the best, my friend..
2006-10-30 18:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by innocence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id hardly call a 12 month relationship 'long term'
if u really want to get over it u have to stay away from your best friend, dont spend too much time with her.
plus what people say when they are drunk doesnt mean sh*t.-
2006-10-30 08:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by squishy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol 12months a long term relationship?what would u call 12 yrs relationship then?
2006-10-30 15:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by stang girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, I don't get lesbians. God made up to be attracted to the opposite gender, not the same. so pray to God to help you with your problems. He will certainly guide you onto the right path.
2006-10-30 08:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by ctgirl206 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with Pammy!!
2006-10-30 09:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Erika M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋