My boyfriend and I are from Seattle, WA. We lived in Spokane, WA for the past 5 years, and just recently moved to Portland, OR. He got into 5 of the 6 graduate schools he applied to, and we had our choice where to move. I started a new job, and am getting much better pay and benefits. He is miserable at school- starting to question if this is even what he wants to do. I don't like my new job... but as I said the pay and benefits are much better. Should we stick it out and try to keep our chins up, or should he take a year off and I find a new job? I have only been working here for 2 mos. so I know that will not look good on my resume. This is not a fast food job... I am in my career at this point.
2006-10-30 07:55:36 · 5 answers · asked by boggin828 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
BTW, I was NOT happy in Spokane either.
2006-10-30 07:59:05 · update #1
I was not happy in Spokane either. I had a job I loved, but horrible pay and no benefits. Plus, the city sucks.
2006-10-30 07:59:50 · update #2
You have all been so helpful... just thought I would add a little more information. It is not the city at all that I dislike. It is the job. My bf is interning, and likes that so I'm not sure why he thinks he does not want to do it for a living anymore. I think it just doesn't excite him the way it used to. I still think that if he were to just work- no school for a short time, it would relieve his stress a bit. I have moved quite a bit in the past, I usually truly enjoy relocating. I just feel like I was so optimistic about this one and it has gone so sour. I'm not fond of my job, and it doesn't help that the company we rent from is AWFUL!!! But, the main concern at this point is the job... to stay or quit. I keep saying I'll stick it out for a year, but I'm afraid that I'll go crazy if I'm here for a year if only 2 months is already making me miserable.
2006-10-30 11:17:05 · update #3
move back......
2006-10-30 07:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about doing what makes you happy! I am also from the Northwest and I am quite familiar with both Seattle and Portland. Portland is a great place to live, maybe you should try to find a new job and stay in town! Are you unhappy with the city or just with your situation in it!?! The city itself might be much more appealing after you are content with other aspects of you life there! Maybe your BF should get a part time job or internship somewhere in the field he is studying before totally quitting school. He might be really busy for a bit, but it seems like that would help him decide if that's what he wants to do!!
Good Luck and remember Seattle is only a 3hour drive if you ever need to go home!!!
2006-10-30 16:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jackson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys need to make this decision together. Honestly, whenever you're trying something new it's common to "hate" it for the first few months, because everything is unfamiliar. When you think about things "back home", it's always the nice things you remember. Human nature.
I'd stick it out for a while longer, and decide together how long is reasonable to give it a shot. After that time, revisit the issue and decide whether to change what you're doing.
From personal experience, changing cities is not always the answer! Stay in your new place and make an effort to develop a new support network there. Try to make new friends, join a club, look for a church, whatever interests you. This will help you feel accepted in your new place and possibly change your feelings about staying.
2006-10-30 16:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by I Love to Read 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, without knowing more details about you and what you like and all, it's hard to answer. But, it can be tough moving into a new area and new jobs and all. I would give it more time, at least let your boyfriend get through the first semester of school. At that point, if you guys still don't like where you are and what you are doing, take some time to figure some of those things out.
2006-10-30 16:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by william 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decisions are really hard. I am in the mist of a moving decision myself. Go for what makes you happy to hell with the rest.
2006-10-30 15:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋