Why is it so bad to be Bi in this society we live in.?

Answer 1

ambular,
I beg to differ with the first two that posted on this question. It can be rougher for us who are Bi to be treated fairly by others in the world because of Religious Persuasion, but I thinki that part of our problem is this:

I prefer women (some) over men. I have had sex with both. Now with my preference to woman, what am I saying to men then? Isn't what I am saying to them, "You are never going to last in a relationship with me." (?)

And to women, am I not saying that you cannot count on me to stay committed to you, that unless this is forever, I could go and have another affair with either sex?

So part of the problem is me. How I set myself up to a failure in a relationship. That's why I've taken myself off the shelf. Until this weird brain of mine can find one woman that really is the one for me. I don't want to play around, I think that I am feeding a monster within myself that just wants what some other people have. Safety and security within one relationship, or none at all. I am not satisfied unless I can have that.

I suppose that is very personal to my experience, but it is my experience.

Answer 2

Because it is so hard to understand. Gay people may have a hard time trusting that you won't bounce back and forth between the genders (breaking hearts along the way). Straight people may get a little freaked out and not understand it.

It seems that some people claim to be bi to shock people or to turn some other people on.. for attention. People are afraid of getting their feelings involved in that.

Answer 3

Most people in society identify as homosexual or heterosexual, and fit into a community (either the gay or straight one). Whilst homosexuals have difficulty due to a homophobic society; they have their own community who they can relate to other homosexuals, identify who they are and have role models.

Bisexuals usually complain about being outsiders in both the gay and straight communities, as their desires and experiences don't conform to either community. The lack of a bisexual community makes it difficult for bisexuals to come to terms with who they are, and they have no means of trying to understand their own reality in terms of other people. Hence, some bisexuals form their own groups, and create their own terminology to come to terms with their dual attraction.

Humans generally feel threatened by things they can't categorise. A homosexual or heterosexual is easy to categorise compared with a bisexual. Whilst a bisexual is attracted to both genders, their degree of attraction to each gender varies from person to person. You can get a straight leaning bisexual, a 50/50 or a gay leaning bisexual. This threatens the concept of neat little boxes, and the variation makes it difficult to categorise an individual bisexual.

Bisexuals have to put up with homophobia from the straight community, and biphobia from some members in the gay community. Things are getting better for bisexuals, and its no longer a gay community - but an LGBT community.

Answer 4

Bisexuals are treated badly by straight AND gay folks. Straights often believe bisexuals are gay folks in hiding... gay folks often believe biseuxals are gay folks who can't commit.

While we proudly tout GLBT, the **B** is one of the more questioned letters in the group. Yes, many have questions about *T*'s but with T's, we usually have a physical something to look at.

With bisexuals, we just wonder who they're going to sleep with next... guys? gals? both? Most of us just want a person to pick a gender -- any gender -- and stick with it. Bisexuals push back on our wants and makes us wonder why they can't.

I was one who didn't believe that there were true bisexuals. But a bisexual female co-worker of mine helped me see the light. After many long and thoughtful conversations, I became a believer.

And then there's the thought that bisexuals are just sluts. No. Just because they are attracted to both sexes does not mean they have to act upon their attractions.

Stay true to yourself, always.

The best of luck!

Answer 5

Our society LOVES dichotomy. Two-party political system. Right or wrong. Boy or girl (there's five biological sexes, and arguably infinite genders). Gay, or straight. People don't like their worldviews to be messed with.

Answer 6

it's only bad when it is judged by closed minded people.
We should learn to accept people based on more then whom we happen to love.

Answer 7

because of some religious closed minded people, and it's not bad, they just make it bad on us