Why would you do it if you knew they were married--- how would you feel if you were married and it happened to you?
2006-10-30 07:46:45 · 24 answers · asked by Arual 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok I will admit I once slept with a man when I knew he was married...I was 18 young, stupid and thought the guy likes me. I had no idea the meaning of marriage, the meaning of family. I will not say I blame the man because I was aware of the situation. I am forever sorry I did that, my biggest regret was getting involved. I am sorry if this has happened to you.
It did happen to me years later, although I was mad I figured it was karmic payback.
If this happened to you just know, its nothing to do with you, your great and the cheaters are wrong....you dont deserve that!
2006-10-30 07:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't, but I think the reason most people consider that a thrill is because it has no ties. No married man is going to admit that to his wife unless he HAS to (i.e. the girl got pregnant or he got an STD). The girl can have a relationship with a guy that does not have a complicated "what now" expectation, often including "silence" gifts, as well... The man gets the sex without the obligatory responsibilities involved in a relationship... It's ideal for them... Only the wife is being short-changed...
As a wife, I would kick his behind to the curb. He would leave our relationship with nothing but the clothes on his back. Relationships are built on love and trust, and you can't have either if he is with someone else behind your back. If he justified it once, he'll do it again. Save yourself and change the locks... ♥
2006-10-30 08:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do it for SEX. And yes I am married to the best man in the world. We do have a open marriage. The question you should be asking is why is a married man is sleeping around when it seems to be a problem with the wife. It is the married one who is cheating.
2006-10-30 07:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It happened to me. I found out that my ex had been cheating on me for over a year. We had been married 20 years.
I literally felt like I had been shot in the stomach. I fell down to the floor even.
I don't understand it... I just don't. He fooled around with several women who knew he was married. I guess they have no real respect for themselves or boundries.
Also, the man may give them a sob story... My wife is such a *****, can I put my penis in your vagina?
I can NEVER imagine I would place myself in that position.
It is pathetic on both parts.. In a very big way, those who cheat deserve each other.
2006-10-30 08:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We will never know exactly why. There are different reasons in every situation. The fact isn't really why....you may think it will help ease the pain if the answer is there for you. The fact is that it happened and the person that you loved and devoted your life to wasn't as committed as you thought. They do love you but not in the way that is healthy and it is not a committed love. Usually people cheat because they are looking for a void in their lives. Sad thing is, they look for love in another when what they really need to do is look inside themselves. It is low self esteem and they can only fin that love within. It's not the spouse's fault. It is something inside the cheater..........and heshe needs to work to improve themselves.
2006-10-30 13:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very hurt if my husband did that. Some people like to sleep with married people because they know they are commited to other people and it's just sex. That still doesn't make it right
2006-10-30 07:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by julieg_68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a subject very close to my heart. My best friend and my husband attempted to hook up. On many occasions I spoke to her and asked her why she preferred married men. She feels there is no commitment in those types of relationships. So they both are getting what they want. He wants someone who wont harass him or expect stuff from him and so does she.
2006-10-30 07:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Coretta H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did sleep with a married man before i got married and i found it very kinky and know that i am married my husband finds that stiff kinky too so we are planing on finding someone who will join us married or not just to see if we like it and to fulfill a fantasy together i feel that there is nothing wrong with it we are doing it together and we feel that it is not concederd cheating as long as we both aprove of it and is something we do together.
2006-10-30 07:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 19:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by maza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just enjoy the event. The risk is exciting. Both consenters are equally to blame.
2006-10-30 07:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋