Would you prefer to be single the rest of your life and laugh with your best guy friend, or married to someone you were with for nine years and left you out of the blue, but wants forgiveness and wants to come back home..??
2006-10-30 07:45:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you are still very angry to the point of bitterness - I don't advise don't anything that requires the heart at this time. Any decision you make with your heart will be tainted with anger and bitterness - even if you make the decision with the best intentions.
I don't think you should make any decisions at all - just be single and hang with your friends and live a while day to day with again no life decisions.
Just thought of another thing as to why to put it off: Mercury just went into retrograde on the 28th. No new things or decisions should be made until Mercury goes forward again in 3 weeks. Time for clearing of the old to make way for new in future. All communication, paperwork and devices go haywire during Merc retrograde period. Just relax and again clear yourself.
2006-10-30 07:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in life wants something different.. Some people are okay being single others are not...
You need to take time off for yourself and figure out exactly what it is you want. Also, think back on your relationship that you have had for nine years. Why did he get up and just leave, what are all the pros and cons of getting back with him?
The way I see it is, if he just got up and left for no reason, or maybe had someone, then you are better to be single... The chances are is he might do it again... Love is a hard thing to come by and it shoud be unconditional. No one should leave there partner for any reason, unless they fall out of love or cheat... If he loved you, he would not have left you.... True love will and can conquer all...
Before making decisions, you need to talk to him as well....
Good Luck!
2006-10-30 15:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well only you can answer for your self.
It is never good to sacrifice your own feelings for the sake of someone else's when it comes to sharing your life!!!
What does your heart say?
If you weren't happy with your husband maybe you should stick with laughter I can't imagine my life without it!
Besides if you have to ask if you should take the weak hubby back it sounds to me like you already now your answer!!!
It's about doing what is right for you and the rest of your life!!
2006-10-30 15:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. I'd be friends with the guy friend, but find someone great to marry. It will happen, don't worry. Dump the one who left you, enjoy your friend, and date like mad! Have fun, go dancing, meet interesting people and just live it up!
2006-10-30 17:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would better prefer to be married to the best guy friend that makes me laugh
2006-10-30 15:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to YOUR heart. but i would rather be laughing with the person who appreciates me. if someone left me, i would want to know of him what his reasons were. to want forgiveness is one thing, to actually mean it, you have to prove it to me. if you care for him and he is willing to start over, it has to be like day one of knowing each other, as soon as you feel neglected by him, this time be smart and walk away right away -- at least you'll know what his words forgiveness meant.
2006-10-30 16:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So are the other questions posted aren't serious?
I would just prefer to be happy. This question is not worth the title of serious.
2006-10-30 15:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abandonment is hard to forgive.........my heart isnt that kind. but you sound as if you want to forgive.......so i say follow your heart. but i think being married can b one of the greatest things a person can do.......nothing compares to building a new world with the one u love.
2006-10-30 18:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with the one that makes you laugh, not the one that makes you cry.
2006-10-30 15:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
single and laughing-but so would like married and laughing.
2006-10-30 15:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋