For my 8th grade daughter to want to get married, have kids, and spend every second talking her her manic depressive suicidal boyfriend? My wife says this is perfectly normal who is wrong here?
2006-10-30 07:29:12 · 6 answers · asked by jon b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is no right or wrong here in this situation, and normal is only defined by the person who assumes it's normal. It sounds to me that this a problem to you, and you seem to be the only one to see it that way.I wouldn't look at normal or right or wrong, I would look at, is my daughter happy, is she joyful, is she enthusiastic. This will be your indicator that all is well with her. Her talking about getting married , having childern is all ready set in place long before you wrote this question, let that be. Now , you wrote about her boyfreind being ,manic depressive and suicidal these are serious words to describe another person, so I would pay a lot of attention to your daughters feelings. If she is around a lot of negitive influence, it will affect her . You can tell by her actions towards you or your wife or others. We all affect each other in a positive or negitive way, most of us humans don't want to believe that , but it is true Your daughter may not take her boyfriend as seriously as you and accept him as he is, and not think anything about it at all.Just make sure you pay attention how your daughter is feeling. Teenagers are flighty by nature, their behavior varies unpredictably. Give your wife a big hug, and tell her that you love her and the same for your daughter. I think you wife was only trying to get you to lighten up , just pay attention to your daughter is feeling , from that point of view you will start feeling alot better about your self. I wish you a great life. what could be better , you get to live with two women, what a blessing that is . The best gift you can give to another is your happiness GO FOR IT, Thank you for allowing me to share myself with you
2006-10-30 08:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by bonnie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal but its also normal for you to want to rip her manic depressive suicidal boyfriends guts out.... specially if he try something with an 8th grader... how old is he? he should be in the same grade for this to be a normal thing.. other than that I would absolutly have a problem with this relationship and even if he was her age I just think she is too young to even be dating or having a "boyfriend" at this age I would supervise a friendship with a boy...and that is all they be calling each other "FRIENDS"...good luck.You sound like a good concern dad.
2006-10-30 16:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both!!! i remember when I was that age I had the same thoughts. I wanted so badly to have all that. Most girls do, no matter what the age. I would be careful about the boyfriend!!! He could be trouble and a bad influence. Try and talk to your daughter. Ask her what she see in this boy. maybe he just needs to know that people care about him. Have them over to your house more often, set rules ( like curfew, no doors closed....you know the drill) Just don't be to protective, she could rebel. Let her know that you care and you have respect for her. Good luck!
2006-10-30 16:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. I remember being completly boy crazy in 8th grade.
2006-10-30 15:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can rememer having those feelings when i was that age ....talk to ur daughter befor its to late to change things,,,
as 4 the boyfriend suicidal he needs to go
2006-10-30 15:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is wrong.
2006-10-30 15:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋