At home I can be random and loud, but at school, no matter how hard I try, I'm quite and shy to even my friends. I don't know how to break out of my shell and just be myself. It's like I completly close up and I can't break out of it until I get home or something. How can I be my friendly, random, loud self around my friends and people I don't kow well at school? Or atleast be less shy?
2006-10-30 07:25:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know you have to get self confidence but how?
2006-10-30 07:30:18 · update #1
Don't censor yourself. If you do, you miss your window of opportunity to say something funny or get a laugh out of someone.
Don't be afraid to be silly or random. People appreciate you even more when you're your authentic self. And if someone doesn't get you, it's not the end of the world. Some people are so consumed with how they're perceived that they're afraid to let loose, and you know what, they're missing out on a whole lot!
It took me 18 years to realize that and after I did, the next 9 years have been a blast. People want to hang out with you when you make them laugh or act a little off-the-wall. And better yet, YOU'LL feel good about it too because you're being real.
You learn to be yourself much better when you're not trapped in the confines of what you think people want.
I hope you can do this!
2006-10-30 07:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Astrid79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was shy as a teen and young adult, I did break out of my shell a bit. As long as you are doing what your best and not hurting any one, what other people think doesnt really matter. besides, it's not always good to be the loud person. They can get really annoying at parties. Some loud people are loud because they have an undying need for everyone's attention all the time. I have a friend like that and it's very difficult for me to spend long periods of time with her .
2006-10-30 07:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by lisaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be the same way. What helped me was being around a few close friends who were particularly loud and outgoing. It helped me to feel like it was ok to be loud when I was with them, also when I wasn't with them sometimes I would feel like doing something wierd and random. It took some time and I'm still working on it. Look for a happy medium though. Freak out your friends and ppl at school who aren't use to the wild you, it makes the change even more fun!!!
2006-10-30 07:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Who am I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm that way. But sometimes I tell myself that that day I'm just gonna be like myself..if I feel like doing something I'm just gonna do it, and not keep thinking about it until I chicken out. What I'm trying to say is, just tell yourself that you're going to do it, and when you get a chance to, try as hard as you can to just be yourself. I know it's hard, cause I do the same thing, and I can only be outgoing on some days. Hope it helps!
2006-10-30 07:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boost your self confidence...Your comfortable around people you know. Quit worrying about what people are going to think of you. But if not find something you like to wear that makes you feel superior and self confident and stick with that style even if it means applying make up and doing your hair every morning. Do whatever makes you more confident.
2006-10-30 07:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by txmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of confidence and self esteem. You need to feel good about yourself, You have to know that people will like you for the real you.
2006-10-30 07:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deep rivers flow silently , shallow brooks make more noice. Dear! its not necessary to be loud and cheerful to be a good companion and even famous amongst your peers, I get the feeling you are a girl of substance and shud be happy wid what u are. Sometimes in trying to win others we lose our ownself, the ball is in your court now, do you wanna lose your identity to be what you aren't?
2006-10-30 16:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Raj S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be your self. someone will like your natural qualities and you'll be popular. the best way to break out of a shell is to be your self or change your whole attitude. go with the be your self gig. hope i answered your question. bye
2006-10-30 07:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a few friends who r genuine enuf to help u. they will prompt u 2 go to parties. it will take some time. get some jokes in ur head and make people laugh. thats the easiest and best way to be popular. just chill out. everything'll be fine.
2006-10-30 07:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by superman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worrry too much about it. When you get around people that you ar emore comfortable with, you'll open up more. Don't force it or 'try' to be something you're not. That would look insincere and fake. Be yourself and have fun.
2006-10-30 07:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋