What's the best way for a shy person to gain coinfedence & overcome shyness?

Question

I'd like mature, experienced, 'adult' answers; thank you.

Answer 1

It takes a lot of time - once you slowly experience different situations and have positive experiences in dealing with people, you will find that you are less afraid of them. Its basically reinforcing the positive experiences over and over again until they outweigh negative ones. When you talk in front of a group of people think about what went well and what you are proud of, and the next time work from that and the knowledge of what happened last time - after many times of building up from one positive experience you will find yourself more confident. You cant just jump right into it - its a process of many steps and the hardest ones are often the first.

Answer 2

Shyness is all in the mind. I should know... I'm a shy type of person myself. An people think that I'm a snob because of this. The best thing to do is develop self-confidence and try to mingle with people. Just always remember that we are all born equal... So you don't have to be shy in front of a stranger because we are all human beings dwelling in this world. And whenever you found yourself being shy, try to think that you are not. Remember, what you think about yourself reflects... Smile!

Answer 3

I think the best way is to get involved in something that forces you to be more animated and out of your comfort zone. I chose singing because there is no way you can be shy in front of a crowd of people. Acting is also another realm where you do not have to even be yourself but it gets you into a position where it is tough to play shy.. Debate clubs or joining the Chamber or Toastmasters is another place where they teach you the skills you need to be more extroverted. I think the easiest was is to make new friends...take chances and do things you normally wouldn't. You'll find most people have the very same feelings and that they seem to subside when you are taking them on head first. Another thing you can do is get your look together so you feel confident (ie work out, get your hair done, get an awesome new outfit) and then just reap the rewards when people really start to notice you. Hope that helps...

Answer 4

A shy person may be to wrapped up in their world to see the risk to become a adult. Invite affirmation for bad and express the feeling assertively with a sentence of your spontaneous answer before it overwhelms the thought. Dreamer you are sitting on the sidelines of life. While I ask myself a question no one has time before my committee world answers while they speak. We all must learn that discipline is reaction for you to express your views and be prepared for a answer not of your world. Share the feeling verbally and not with body suggestions and invite trusted people to joke with you about your mistake. A mistake is happening to you when your not in lives and grow old wishing the envy or admiration for another. If you can't say it in words at first write it out so your feelings can surface to the tone of emotion.

Answer 5

I used to be kinda shy, now im 26, and as i grow older, i just stopped caring what other people think. Really that is what shyness is , having the self confidence tonot care what others think of you. It can go either way, as it has been for me. But you realize only you pay your bills, and only you should care about how act. Be yurself, and if you want to come up to someone and talk to them go ahead. Cant hurt.

Answer 6

I suggest that you have to look at "How bad do you want it?" concept. Confidence that is.... In my opinion, dive in head first. You have to really we are all judge to some degree by everyone and everything. Just keep in mind all of the strengths that you have.
Get involved in group activities. Join a speech group. Take lessons in something, be it music, arts, dance,etc. Show we fellow humans who you really are, and let us enjoy your presence.