We married and 11 days later was mobilized with the Reserve. Left me, his wife, behind for over a year. After no wanting sexual contact when came home, I got suspicious of him having an affair. Two moths ago, after 1 year in other state, asked for a divorce. Is he cheating? He is or was a regular on this site. Please help me make sense about his expression of repulsion and rejection toward me. I am a faithful wife. He complains of my terrible response to his lack of care and love for me. Now, he humilliates me and never made an intent for reconciliation or attending to a marriage counselor. He completely dedicated his spare time to his children from previous 3 marriages. The rest of the time, was to his career and buddies from the base.
2006-10-30 07:10:49 · 4 answers · asked by Woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is a reason he's had 3 previous marriages. you may want to find out why. Even so, looksl ike hes not interested in you anymore, and while it will be painful, you will be better off to just let him go and find a person who truly values you.
2006-10-30 07:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rum_Punch_Girlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have married him before he was deployed. War changes people. Maybe he was not unfaithful and just realize that life is too short to be with someone that you don't truly love. I don't think he had enough time to be unfaithful. A year is a long time to be separate from someone that you have not clearly established a marriage with. Sorry but that might be the reason.
2006-10-30 07:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible to know........ your mention of him having 3 previous marriages suggest he could just be a jerkass (some of the biggest a******s I've ever met are ex. Military personnel who've returned to civillian life)....... or he could have just realised he was happier when he was free & single........ one of my ex. online g/f's who ditched me behind my back and married an Army guy instead is having similar problems - went from Kentucky to visit him at his base in Texas shortly before he got deployed.. couldn't find him, and his cellphone was switched off 'cos didn't pay the bill....... when she eventually caught up with him, he told her he didn't wanna see her..... so she currently doesn't want anything to do with him anymore, and hates all guys (I'm caught up between comforting her, since we were good friends before she become my g/f..... and laughing at her in a "serves you right for ditching me" kinda way).
You may as well just say Sod him, and move on
2006-10-30 07:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was married 3 previous times, that should have told you something. You should have steered clear from this character. I would say good ridance......
2006-10-30 07:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋