As i was growing up,i had a daddy only to realize at 8 years old that my dad denied being my father for some reasons, according to him, my mom already married two men (BRITISH AND PHILIPINES) before him and so there is an arguement of who my dad really is.When i asked my mom to sue him or do a DNA, she refused saying that she does not want to hurt him.What steps should i take?i ve a brother 17yrs old who my dad accepted but he is currently irresponsible on us.
2006-10-30 06:50:32 · 10 answers · asked by BeautyBreak H 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-30 07:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you are struggling with this. However, even though your dad denies being your father, he has nonetheless taken part in raising you. There is a saying, any man can be a father, it takes someone special to be a dad. I know you want to know who your father is but what matters more, who is 50% genetically related to you, or who was there for your birthdays, christmases, school plays?
I hope you find your peace with this.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 15:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, and move on with your life. What if you force someone by law to have the test done and it shows negative. Then you have hurt an "innocent" person. What you need to do is to remove your mom and dad (or step dad) from your group of friends and family. Forgive them both and get rid of them. You can have a happy if you don't drag around two worthless pieces of baggage with you.
2006-10-30 14:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mum probably has a very good reason. Bringing up the past is at times very hard. You do need to talk about this but be prepared she might tell you somehthing you dont want to hear , like he knows about you but doesn't want to know you. That might be the reason she wont let on or could be something more serious! If you know what I mean.
2006-10-30 15:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept that this may not be the time but gain agreement that you want to know the truth before you marry
Callum
2006-10-30 14:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by R S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i could not even imagine what you must be going through. i would be very upset over my mother not at least telling me who my real father was. you need to stand your ground there an demand she tell you. i just hope she knows who the father actually is , for your sake. good luck honey!
2006-10-30 15:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
demand it for yourself. YOU deserve to know who you are and where you come from. I am a single mother who had to make that choice for my daughter. She needed to know that her father really was her father even if he said he wasnt. it was her right to know.
2006-10-30 14:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by mccreight29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't no what to say, well you look beautiful in that pix, bout you're parents, they're really irresponsible, that sucks, but I guess you're a well raised girl, that will get what she wants!
2006-10-30 14:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear your situation hunny. sounds like you and your mum need a serious talk. take good care of yourself xx
2006-10-30 14:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by mousie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your moms a slapper,get used to it and get on with your own life.cos it has nothing to do with your past,all to do with your future and what u make of it.!.
2006-10-30 14:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by done it 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋