extra marital affair?????

Question

is it a norm to have an extra marital affair nowadays? seems to be pretty common

Answer 1

I think it is the norm and that's sad.

The question is why is it the norm?
I think people are getting married without understanding what they are getting into. They marry each other because they see such great potential in other person and if they don't achieve it they get upset.

If people would wait until they already had a career and a social life then you could more easily show this is me and what I have to offer. I'm willing to share this with you.

What happens I think more often than not is both people walk away from their own individual life to start something together and expect the other person to fill up that void or make them the center of their life or something equally stupid.

Answer 2

I can't believe that people are actually answering you by saying it's the norm.

No it's not normal, it's immoral. Imagine the hurt and pain an extramartial affair can cause. The pain is not only the burden of the betrayed spouse, but also of the children brought into this world. An extramartial affair effects so many people. Is a few moments of physical pleasure worth the pain you will cause?

Having an affair is a selfish act. If you feel you want someone other than your spouse I think you should consider marriage counseling or divorce before carrying out such an act.

One other little note I would like to add, have you ever heard of STD's?

Answer 3

In one of many poles they estimated that 80% of men and 60-70% of women have had affairs.

There was a doctor OBGYN in a suburban hospital that started doing blood analysis of the children that he delivered in the late 50's. He discovered that 10-11% of all the babies born in his hospital were not fathered by the guy in the waiting room. (For you younger ones out there this was in the era of Donna Reed and Father Knows Best, ask your parents or grand parents about them.) The trend continued through the 60's and the love generation at 10-11% and into the 70's. Because of the laws starting to be passed then he could not continue without permission of the parents and he didn't want to cause problems. The moral to this story is that people have been jumping the fence since they figured out that there were 2 sexes.

Answer 4

It is not a norm but it happens a lot. But just because it is common does not make it alright or ok.

People, spouse and the people having affairs themselves, and children are often hurt in the process. Marriage and family are tore apart.

Answer 5

No, it's never okay. Why get married if your still going to sleep around. You will never get all you can out of a relationship if there's cheating. When you get married it means you have someone in your corner for life. If your cheating what kind of teammate does that show you are. It's sad that it is so common. I would never ever cheat on my husband, and I pray that he never strays either. I could never trust him in anything if he did. Please stay true if your thinking about straying. It's not worth the pain it would cause for both.

Answer 6

Well it common among people but not for me. What i think those who had marital affair is sick

Answer 7

no its not right jus cos everyones doing it. marrying someone ur commiting urself to that person and that person only, if ur gonna go round having an affiar why u get marriad in the first place. guys who have affairs are scared to commit 100% and thats sad.

Answer 8

It is common, but it is still a sin. If you are thinking about it, reconsider. Get a divorce. It is a heavy burden to carry with you for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Norm?
I would hope not.
I would hope that more people have self respect for
themselves and others...to stoop that low.

If you don't want to be monogamous then why marry?
Why hurt the people that you love.

Would I call it norm.....No

Answer 10

Seems to be the norm, but just because you can doesn't mean that you should.