Before our marriage my wife was showing some signs of depression but nothing that was out of control. The day after we came home from our honeymoon she has becomes worse by the day. She has said numerous times that she is going to kill herself and her kids. I was abler to get her to the doctor but she refuses to go back because she wants to save her time-off for the end of the year. She was prescribed an anti depressant but after taking it for a month she decided to stop cold turkey. She tells me everyday that I don’t care and is always pushing me away and contradicting herself with everything she says. On top of everything my kids have got stuck in the middle and now my daughter cries and does not want to go with me when I pick her up. It was getting so bad that I decided to keep my kids away from it this past weekend, but of course that made things worse. She refuses to tell anyone about her depression and puts everything on me. I have no idea what to do , I cannot handle it anymore
2006-10-30 06:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by Chris H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to be taken to the closest psychiatric facility that you can find.
Neither her children or yours should be subjected to this. Try and get some proof of what she says, even if you have to tape record it. How old are the children? Can they testify that their mother is suicidal? And her speaking about killing her own chlidren is extreemly frightening.
You have heard to true stories on TV about women or men who kill themself and their children. You really don't want to come home some day and find blood all over the place.
She will probably not tell anyone but you how serious this is. That is why you need some proof of her extent of disperation.
You may have to get the marriage annuled.
The safety and mental well being of your own children should be your top priority.
You did have marriage vows, but this depression is way beyond what you can deal with. Have a frank talk with your kids. Tell them that you want them to be in a safe and happy enviorment and you are working on getting them to that place.
Your county should have some mental health facilities.
You are dealing with someone who is very very ill. You don't have the experience to deal with someone who is so mentally ill.
Does she have some family that you can help you get her some help.
Really, this is serious. When you get away from the situation you will realize how insane this is.
Keep your kids away from her. There is NO way her own children shoudl be around her when she is threatening to kill her own children.
Child protection agency shoud be notified and the kids put in a safe enviroment. Hopefully some of her family.
You don't want to be a news story now do you?
You went in to this marriage not knowing the extent of her depression. Please don't ruin your life and future becasue of this woman.
Being a man it is time to keep your children safe and her being your wife, you need to get her some help. don't sacrafice your life and safety. This lady is very mentally ill. Please get her some help. asap
2006-10-30 06:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married a guy with a gene for inherited depression. It was a nightmare. The antidepressants worked pretty well, when he stayed off the booze. But it was no fun, sweetie. Wish I had left sooner --- the last 5 years of our 18 marriage was beyond anything I could write here--- just wished I had left sooner. He wouldn't help himself, and I was exhausted, and stressed to the point of illness myself. It took two years for me to find square one again. Do what I did -- leave, file, and get out..... I even left the state, and moved to another city...... Life is tooo short, and there are too many nice people to spend time with.
2006-10-30 06:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 03:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Trudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the hospital. Now. Sign her in to a psych ward.
SHE MAY HURT YOUR CHILDREN
SHE MAY HURT HERSELF
BOTH options leave a LIFETIME of scars that can never heal.
SHE HAS TO TAKE HER MEDS and she HAS TO TAKE HER CONDITION SERIOUSLY.
If she won't, take her to the hospital where they will lock her down for 3 days to a week and give her counseling and medication and help her with coping skills to maintain her treatment at HOME.
2006-10-30 06:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your families doctor and explain to him the situation including how she wont take medication then with his help you can both tackle the situation in the best way for the whole family
2006-10-30 06:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pink slip her into a hospital. IF she doesn't carry through with treatment you will probably need to leave her.
2006-10-30 08:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first duty is to your children.
I would see to it that my children feel safe and protected.
As for your wife:
You can't help someone, who won't let you.
2006-10-30 06:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is much too personal an issue to be discussing on here. Please seek the advice of friends and family.
Also, please know that a BLENDED family always means problems - and it's probably the root of the depression.
2006-10-30 06:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave her~
2006-10-30 06:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋