I think I must be going through exactly what most 18 year old guys go through.......I will be turning 38 in 4 days! And all I can think about is (I am sure you can figure that out) Anyways, It is making me crazy..........I have also been married 15 years.....I have asked tried to talk to my husband about this as it is (or should be) a very exciting phase in our marriage. He does not seem to understand or care about exploring any of this with me. I have been having strange ideas I will admit but it would still be fun to be able to talk to him about them? Have any of you been there and how did your spouse react?
2006-10-30 06:20:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello
well I am around the same age ...I hit this peak stage about 2 years ago and my hubby loved it...wore him out but loved it ...it is also about the time i suggested trying the swinger lifestyle. (its not for everyone) and I also told him about some of the things I wanted to explore and try before I got to old to care....don't want to sit back one day and wonder what if.....lol
you might try writing hubby a note like a sexy little story ...rent some porno ,...take control of the situation ...and see what happens....
some men feel uncomfy talking about it....so just take action...
2006-10-30 07:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by ladysilverhorn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might have to be just a little suttle about it, plan small dinners not much food but good music and tell him that he has to dress and you will pick out the cloths, make sure that the out fits are sexy, make the dinner sexy, you be sexy, wear the colors that he like. Make this be date night at home. Do it about 2 or 3 times but a month as each dinner get hotter and sexier, have little games, like smell parts of your body and tell me to let you know what it smells like, for everyone correct, he gets a kiss were every he wants.. You Get the idea, bring him into your world of pleasure slowly, but be very carfull you might wake a sleeping monster and you might not be able to stop him..You might get more than you want???
2006-10-30 14:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by marion p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the wrong woman.
My wife told me flat out in 1993 that she never liked having sex with me and has not even attempted to have relations since that day.
I gave up trying after five years to convince her otherwise.
You can try and tell him that he is missing out on a lot, but guys seem to be scared to understand that sex is more than 2 minutes, 52 seconds of squishing noises.
I hope yuo can convince him otherwise.
2006-10-30 14:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am literally counting the seconds until my wife reaches this point in her maturity. Unlike most men, my sex drive nor my interest in my spouse has never waned. She has become more interested in being adventurous in the last few years, but it's my understanding that the late 30's is when women really seem to awaken.
2006-10-30 14:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking about it is awkward even if you are both into trying something you might just want to explore slowlyone night and go a little crazier each time you get the chance..ease him into it
2006-10-30 14:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it just a cruel joke...our drive peaks mid life and their drive peaks in their teens and 20's.
Break out the toys next time you are intimate with your husband. Show him what you want. Sometimes it's better for them to see it during the moment and not discuss it when you're not in that moment.
2006-10-30 14:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am in my mid 30's, but my sex life has always been erotic, exotic and exciting. It is what you make of it. Sounds like your hubby needs some Viagra, some lingerie and some good sex music (R&B usually does it for me) Take him to another level and show him how great it can be!
2006-10-30 14:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28 and I completely agree with the gal who wrote she hates sex - I hate it too. I liked it in my twenties, only because I was drunk everytime I had it. Now I just despise it. There is nothing fun about it. Give me kissing and cuddling anyday.
2006-10-30 14:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't talk about your fantacies with him, explore them with him. Become the whore you've always wanted to be. Have fun, and make your husband wild!
2006-10-30 14:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im 33, female, married 7 yrs, and hate sex. I hate it.
2006-10-30 14:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋