I know I should feel fortunate but there is still the pain of the divorce. What can I do to forget about the past?
2006-10-30 06:09:41 · 11 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes time and you'll find it slowly fading away, it want last forever. But, don't make the mistake of marrying someone thinking your over your wife , UNTIL YOU KNOW YOUR OVER HER.
2006-10-30 06:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't ever forget your past so don't even try. You will however move on. As time goes on the pain of your divorce will lessen. You said you've just got a great job and have joint custody of your kids...and also have met a great woman!! You are going in all the right directions! The past is the past..and although you'll always remember your first marriage, and the divorce, in time,it won't hurt so bad. Time will heal..
2006-10-30 14:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jumping back into a relationship is a bit early isn't it? You have children to think of. Do you plan on getting back into marriage again? Take your time. Be with your children, I am sure they probably think that maybe, just maybe, if they had done something different that you and their Mom would still be together. The pain is still to new and you will see behavior problems if you don't take it easy. I have to ask why you got the divorce, you don't want to make the same mistakes again. Think of the kids and your ex. Take it slowly. Learn to be by yourself for a while.
2006-10-30 14:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the pain of divorce ever really goes away, however in time it gets easier to handle. Focus on making your life better for yourself and your kids, this is what my ex and I have done and it has been beneficial for both of us. I dont know what the causes for your divorce but with everything in life there are 2 sides try to focus on the positive effects and the negative will stop hurting so much.
2006-10-30 14:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I been there and done that. The very best advice i can give you is to heal yourself. Realize that you marriage just wasnt meant to be and move on with your life. If this is your first relationship after you marriage move very very slow or you will scare the living hell out of this woman since you are at a very emotional time in your life. Trust me on that one
2006-10-30 15:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by freefinally101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try,, my suggestion is to raise your kids with lots of love,, I also thought after my divorce that I met " the " one, turned into a big mistake that lasted 11 years, she had kids, I had kids, I thought she really understood kids, and how to raise them as a partner, but it turned out to be hell, I think about all the times my kids said they didnt want to come visit me, and think about the time with them I lost and cannot make up,
good luck,
we learn by our experiences, dont look at your divorce as a bad thing,look at it as schooling, as a experience, dont hate her no matter what she did, You still have to work as a unit to help those kids, I hope you both can be friends and raise great kids,
divorce really hurts the kids
2006-10-30 14:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will heal that pain - but look on the bright side you found someone that can aleast be a companion to you. Take things slow and dont rush anything. it took me a while to get over my divorce but i finally found the right guy after a few tries;). good luck :)
2006-10-30 14:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain of a failed marriage doesn't evaporate ever --- but it will ebb. And that you met a nice lady --- how lovely!!!!!! Care for her, develope a nice relationship, and get on with your life..... it is too short to wallow in self-pity, of what coulda, shoulda, woulda been if things had just not happened the way they did.
2006-10-30 14:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get so involved with a joyous future the memories of the past fade away.
2006-10-30 14:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to heal from the past is to go forward with the future~
2006-10-30 14:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋