Should I instead opt for a "civil union?" My husband is my soul mate, and I love him more than anyhting else. I don't ever want to let him go. But, since I am not religious, should we get a divorce and get a "civil union" instead? I have seen more religious people that are homosexual denied marriage, yet I, a non-religious heterosexual, am allowed it. It isn't fair. So, what is marriage truly? What is it for me, since religion doesn't really play a part in my marriage? How would a civil union be different?
And please, if you're going to answer me, don't try to convert me. I've heard it all, and my beliefs are what feel right in my soul. I am a good person and I have no problem with you as long as you're a good person too.
I'm putting this question in Society and Culture so that more of the religious people will see it. I honestly want their perspective.
2006-10-30 06:05:44 · 4 answers · asked by Kharm 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I realized how backward the institution is *before* I married my current soul mate. I went through the other stuff for the first marriage, and it felt so wrong, with my beliefs even then.
It irritates me that society as a whole has bought into the fairy tale image of all this. Any two people can responsibly conduct their business in any way they deem appropriate, without sanctions of some government that I hold diminishing regard for or the church which I hold NO regard for.
2006-10-30 06:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is more a legal thing than a religious one. In the old vows the woman became the mans property when they got married, it's only been pretty recent the the vow Obey was taken out of the ceremony (in most cases). That's part of the problem with gay marriage. The laws are usually written that a marriage is between a man and a woman. Now the laws need to be changed in order for gay marriage to be legalized, and that's going to take a while since most people use religion as a reason to not legalize it. It's not fair, but a lot of things in life are not fair. Look how long it took for black people to have the same rights as everyone else, or how long it took before men would "allow" women to vote? Changing society's view and opinions is a long and tedious process. Nobody likes change, whether or not it's for the better of the people it effects. I believe some day, gay marriage will be legal all over, but not for a long time to come yet. You divorcing your husband to get a civil union, won't change that. Honestly I have no idea what the difference is between a civil union and marriage. I always thought them to be the same thing.
2016-05-22 11:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no religion has a monopoly on marriage, no matter what the fundies think.
It may have religious significance to those who wish it, but it is first and foremost a cultural union.
You can have marriage without religion.
you can have religion without marriage.
2006-10-30 06:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust yourself .If your unhappy , think ,but realize. you`ve only one go at life . Enjoy while you can.
2006-10-30 06:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by wolfe_tone43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋