How to deal with a Bossy,Mean & Rude Teacher That has belittled him in the class room.?

Question

My child's teacher is very nasty to him she acknowledges that hes Smart and Good natured hes just Forgetful and off task at times. It seemed normal to me for a 8yr old boy to have this issue as confirmed by pediatrician. When ever i get her on the phone shes just ragging on him and I'm always on the other end reassuring her! Yet she goes on and on about him! after 30min has passed! I say OKAY lets find a solution to the problem what can we do to fix it? Then she goes on for another 30 min complaining! We had meeting with the school staff concerning my son and was told that if he forgot his school work he would be allowed to go back to the classroom to retrieve any and all work. She put a stop to that after a 1 wk. 1/2. i thought it was a great ideal and felt it should have cont. until or next meeting. i was told no. Shes sends me notes Thanking me for supporting her!! but where is my support? Ive gone to the principal and district and was told nothing could be done. any suggestions

Also i forgot to mention hes come home angry and when i try to talk to him he starts to cry he went from a A+ student to barely passing

Answer 1

I think you should email the superintendent in the school district and file a complaint against that teacher and principal since obviously they won't get off their *** and help you one bit. personally, this teacher needs to be fired. people like her don't deserve to teach.

Answer 2

Very few teachers like to be mean or rude to their students. I always felt like teachers picked on me when I was growing up, but then I taught for a year and saw the teacher's point of view also.

As parents people like to protect their children. I noticed that especially with the parents of smart children the parents believed their kid was always right. The parents of the mischievous kids surprisingly seemed easier to work with.

Probably both you and the teacher are getting frustrated. The teacher can't afford to hold up the rest of the class for one student. And if the teacher makes an exception for your son, the teacher has to make exceptions for basically everyone else. If this is an everyday occurrence the teacher is being very patient. Of course the more you hear from the teacher, the more frustrated you become and the longer the situation persists with your son, the more frustrated the teacher becomes. The situation between you and the teacher will get worse and worse unless the two of you work together to find what works as far as helping your son and I am sure she would be more than glad to work with you.

It might be good to try creating a ritualistic system for remember his homework like a list. My mom did that with me. I would have to look down the list and go "Do I have this, do I have that, do I have everything I need?" I would put a check beside each thing that I checked for so I knew I had it.

If she is sending you notes, then she does greatly appreciate the support. You may want to talk to her in person though and try explaining your feelings in a calm orderly fashion. Getting mad won't solve anything and will make things worse.

Please don't take offense at my next recommendation. Some parents do when a teacher even mentions either of these subjects, but I think it is a good idea to mention them because helping your son should come first. If your son is having extreme difficulty in class, especially if he tends to have a short attention span or class assignments tend to take him a lot longer than the rest of the class, you might want to have him tested for ADD or dislexia. I've seen how hard class can be for students with ADD or dislexia. I'm in no way trying to imply your son has that. The only reason why I mentioned it is just for the rare chance that he might. If you test for it, then you have a clear yes or no and it gives you a better understanding of how you can help him.

Answer 3

See if you can't get him a different teacher for the rest of the year, or if possible home school him until next. I know how hard that is, my daughter is an A student and she has a Language Arts teacher who has put down her work, when all past teachers have said that her writing and stories are what they look forward too and now she gets D's and C's for work that would have got an A. Also my son has had problems since kindergarten with teachers.I would try to sit down with the teacher and the principal and come to some sort of middle ground, after all this is your sons most formative years and he needs to know that he is supported at home and at school. Good luck.

Answer 4

Get a different teacher or change schools. After your child shows improvement; as a result of having a more qualified teacher, write a letter to the district superintendent. Don't forget to name, names.

Go to www.greatschools.net and rate the teacher/school

Answer 5

I'd change teachers. My grandson, who is handicapped, had the same problem and still does at times. My daughter has changed his teachers and it has helped a lot. I had a problem with a teacher in 5th grade, a lot of years ago. I changed teachers also. It was making me sick. You might point out to those who are in authority that your son's grades have fallen due to the treatment or mistreatment of that teacher and you 'll not take it anymore. You have the right to change his teacher and class. He has the right to an education and not have to fight for his right to get one. Learning should be a fun experience not a dreadful one. Talk to school officials too. Good luck with a good solutution.

Answer 6

If it were me, I would consider seeing the school superintendent. If the district says there is nothing more to be done, you might consider having him moved to another school, or asking if he can be moved to another class. If that doesn't work, consider home schooling.

Answer 7

Let it go! She isjust being a *****.... you will have another teacher next year