I'm in my 30's. I'm single, I have been for quite some time, and I plan on remaining that way for all eternity. I have never wanted to get married. EVER. And yet everyone around me, including complete strangers, constantly harps at me: "When are you getting married?" "Why aren't you married yet?" "You need to get married?" "You just haven't found the right guy." "Get married now." "MARRIED! MARRIED! MARRIED!" I'm not even bothering to respond politely anymore. I'll get married when hell freezed over, when everyone else gets divorced, or when blue monkeys fly out of my butt.
Anyone else tired of nosy people who can't mind their own business?
2006-10-30 06:02:05 · 14 answers · asked by badkitty1969 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With all due respect..
May I watch if & when you ever have blue monkeys flying out your butt ??.....I have always had kind of a fetish about that....
2006-10-30 06:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I was in your same situation and some people thought I was gay because they never saw me with a man. When I did marry, it stunned a lot of folks...until then, I just told them that I wanted more than just carbon-based life form that breathed; I needed more than a knuckle-dragger.
I will say this: If it's the same people who are asking you about getting married over and over, tell them you they are just a little too preoccupied with your marital status and need to focus their thoughts on something that MATTERS. Tell them you find it a little creepy that they seem obsessed with it and should maybe get some help. Sarcastic, yes...but you do what you have to.
For everyone else (the first time askers), just tell them you haven't found anyone who measures up. I completely feel you though. I got to a point where I was telling them: "Go out and find me someone if you're that concerned...and don't talk to me until you do!" I was fed up. I didn't care anymore and didn't feel compelled to be polite. If they could be ill-mannered and stupid, well, I was just speaking their language back to them so they could understand.
2006-10-30 06:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I've been there too! Some of my responses were:
"When I find someone who lives up to my standards."
"Generally I need a date to start, know anyone?" (they usually don't and it catches them off guard)
I hated it when people would ask me too...I just ignored it because you cannot change another person. But you can control how you react. Before I got married and it's true to this day, I was living my life as independently as possible and I am (and was) happy with who I am.
My philosophy is that I don't need a man to make me happy or to take care of me. If someone came along, great, but he would have to live up to my standards and be willing to share our lives together... and if I never found someone, oh well, I'm still happy and independent.
My pet peeve was even after I tell people all this, they say "oh don't worry, you will find someone". I was not worried, I am optimistic! But it shows how insecure many people are with themselves and their fear of living alone.
2006-10-30 06:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am. We went to my bf's cousins wedding(who got married for all the wrong reasons) and everyone was asking us when we were going to do it. We both gave them the same answer, that we would when we were ready. I got an email one time that said if someone(like an old person) asked you that, then you ask them "when they are going to die". I haven't got up the nerve for that one yet. But it drives me nuts, it is none of their business and we will do it when we get good and ready.
2006-10-30 08:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to get married , there is no reason why you need to or should, if you are happy and comfortable with being single. then stay single. being happy is all that matters..
tell these people that when they quit being nosy . that is when you will get married. they will always be nosy so you wont be getting married.
2006-10-30 06:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
LOL! And the questions don't stop there! First its:
1. When are you going to get married?
2. When are you going to start having kids?
3. When are you going to have another?
4. When are you going to stop???
LOL!!
2006-10-30 06:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You go girl!!!!
If I had the guts to say stuff like that my life would probably be very, very different than it is! I have been married for 15 years and I have my days when I just wonder what the heck I was thinking! Do something fun and exciting just for me tonight. PLEASE!!!
2006-10-30 06:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't end. Once you get married they start asking when you're going to have kids. It's a vicious circle!!
2006-10-30 06:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, and welcome to Planet Earth.
Yeah, people will find something to harp at you about, and the more different you are, the more "harping" you will endure. This is the price of being different. Sorry, but there's no way around it, except to be "like everybody else" - but, obviously, you will not choose this road.
2006-10-30 06:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
A friend used to have the old aunts come up to him at weddings, and say "You're next!". They stopped when he said the same thing to them at funerals.
2006-10-30 06:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋