2006-10-30 05:54:44 · 33 answers · asked by Brandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes definitely. She was your friend and you should show your respects. I think the other people there would realize that you really cared for this friend and who knows they might just respect you more if you showed up.
2006-10-30 06:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by turnertot1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go because that was your friend as well. Don't worry about how these other people feel towards you. Right now the only thing that's important is you paying your last respects to your friend. It's about her, not them. If they want to act like children then let them act whatever way they want to, but you be the bigger person and worry about what's important here, and that's your friend that has passed on. She would want you to be there for the last time to see her. You don't want to go the rest of your life knowing that you didn't go to your friends funeral because of other people. You would have a lot of regret. You don't have to be there all day long, but atleast show up if you don't do anything else. I'm very sorry for your loss. Take care.
2006-10-30 06:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funerals are times of great grief and raw emotions. If you feel that the people there will be overwhelmed and likely to cause a scene because of your presence then don't go.
Death and the hereafter are spiritual things. Your friend will "hear" a prayer from you and appreciate your thoughts even if you do not go. The person will sense your kindness and well wishes.
Offer up a letter of kindness to the family of the dead person. If they are willing to take your letter, it could form the basis of repairing whatever reason you are hated.
2006-10-30 06:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends, not trying to be funny but I don't think it matters to your friend who died if you are there or not, and she probably wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable, funerals are for the living not the dead. It might be really good for you to go to show others how much you really did care for her, they'd probably respect you for it but as everyone else has said who cares what they think....it really only matters what you think...i am not sure i would want a friend of mine to be uncomfortable, you can honor her in your own way, or go to the funeral. I don't think anyone would be mean to yo if you did go, and if they were it would just show what idiots they are. good luck and sorry about your friend.
2006-10-30 06:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hello the same thing happened to me except it was my boyfriend that died....His ex wife of 15 yrs did not want me at funeral....Well i did not attend I had my best friend go in my place and i made like a bracelet out of shells that him and i had collected at a beautiful beach I asked my best friend to walk in there and place this under his arm so he could be bariued with that tucked away with him ....Sometimes it snot worth getting more upset than u are by having mean people be rude to you....maybe if u go buy her some flowers or even a rose have someone take it to her....I am sure your best friend knows you care deeply for her just like my boyfriend did......All I missed was the hatefull person or people giving me awful looks better I did not go I would of not handled it well....now i go to cemitary clean his area take flowers and just sit and think...you will be fine...take care.Also I AM VERY SORRY YOU LOST YOUR FRIEND TIME HEALS JUST REMEMBER THAT
2006-10-30 06:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre not going because of everyone else, youre going for your firend. Remember that. Go for the friend and forget about everyone else. You care about the friend and need to say your good-byes, if you don't go you will regret it. What do you care what other people think. Friendship was important to you and let that guide you. Sorry to hear that, God Bless you and keep you.
2006-10-30 06:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. The funeral is for you to go pay your respects - it shouldn't matter if people there like you or not. Just go and be respectful of your friend.
2006-10-30 05:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go. You can't change your mind once it's over and you may regret it if you don't. Who cares what these other people think about you. You are going to show your respect and they should just leave it alone for this day.
2006-10-30 06:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go if thats what you want and if thats what your friend would have wanted.Get there at the last minute and stand at the back.If the other people have any respect they will keep their thoughts to them selves.
2006-10-30 06:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by joanne b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should go. You're gonna be there for you friend not for the people that hates you. Screw all the other people if you wanna go then go and only think that your friend would like you to be there with her.
2006-10-30 05:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by ***i <3 Mi BABi*** ^:J&K:^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋