Your friend is in a relationship. It ends, she commits suicide because of that, leaving beautiful children behind...who do you blame? Other's are blaming the guy. I think most of that is out of anger. I think that the guy was an *** but the ultimate decision to take her life was her's and her's alone...I can see being upset with him, if he hadn't of done _____ (fill in the blank), then she'd still be alive. He's the reason she felt so much pain she felt as though she couldn't continue on with life. Even though, we're all upset, I don't think rushing to kill the guy she committed suicide over is the answer. What do you think? I don't really feel anyone's to blame. It's a tragic situation that everyone is going to have to just get over. The ones that are really going to suffer are the children.
2006-10-30 05:43:21 · 34 answers · asked by Ms. Meli 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think it's terribly wrong for anyone to attack him because of a poor choice she made. we've all been devestated by breakups in our lives, however, that does not mean we all go kill ourselves. And i think it's horribly selfish for her to have done so, especially with children. Yes, it is a tragic situation, however, it is not his fault.
2006-10-30 05:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We all go through the pain of a break-up with someone we really love at one time of our life or another (most with children to raise on their own) It is the moment where nothing is worth our time and all we do is think about the WHAT IF's. If we all commited suicide over that, we would not have people on earth. How can someone predict that someone will commit suicide if you don't stay in the relationship that most likely is hurting both just by continuing one more day. How is someone to predict that someone will be so selfish that will only think of ending her pain by commiting suicide and giving this horrible pain to the family that loves her so dearly and leaving her kids alone since the father is gone and now she is too. Is not the fault of the one who walks away... is the one that couldn't think of those around her that love her so dearly
2006-10-30 05:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by sweet lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin just committed suicide 2 months ago. We were very close. Before he did it, he had just found out a few weeks before that his girlfriend was cheating on him. After it happened many people wanted to put the blame on her. I was angry with her too, I won't lie. But the fact is he made that horribly awful decision on his own. I believe it was not heartache that made him do it. It was a severe untreated depression. It is by far the worst situation ever. I would do anything to have him back. There are no words to express the sadness I feel in my heart. I hope this helps a little.
p.s. my cousin left behind 4 beautiful children.
2006-10-30 05:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't blame anyone. You accept that she was troubled and she needed help. She probably had issues that none of you were capable or qualified to deal with. No one, including the boyfriend, knew what was going on in her head. If everyone's looking for someone to blame, they can either close their eyes and point or just look in the mirror.
The most anyone can do is just find a way to grieve, and make sure the children are helped in whatever way possible.
2006-10-30 05:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it was her choice , not his .. some people have a really hard time dealing with it , But it does get easy er over time ,.,. it's not some thing to kill your self over .. stop and think about how this guy feels , and then add how he feels cause every one is blaming him .. the children and the ones that are going to hurt the most . I have a friend that just died sept.2 of this year ,. not by choice .. she was tossed out of a car and broke her neck , But I blame the guy that was driving ( he was drinking ) .. So I am sure he feels like crap as i am sure this guy feels like crap that she went and did that .. pray for the children ..
2006-10-30 05:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she's more to blame than him. Relationships come and go, and after all, LOVE is just a four letter word. The fact that she didn't think of the devistation her children will have the rest of their life tells me that she was being selfish by letting her personal pain overshadow her obligation to her children and her commitment to them as a parent. I know it sounds heartless, but I've personally had to deal with this with a friend. Thankfully, I was tough with her and made her realize it wasn't worth it. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-10-30 05:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dotar Sojat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry, this must be really hard for everyone that knew her. Maybe she was really upset and knowone was there to give her an advice, maybe she thought that her life had no meaning any more. She acted too quickly without thinking, poor children. But i believe the guy is not to be blame for it, in fact, no one should. These are things that happen and even though they are really sad we have to move on.
2006-10-30 05:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by lady butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 4 times and the last one I was in, it floored me. We lived together for 5 years and I found out he was cheating on me when we got married. He knew that I didn't want to get married again,but boy was he a good actor. It hurt me so much that I thought about suicide but I thought to myself, "why would I give up my life for someone that is SOOOO STUPID." The ultimate decision is our own. You can only blame the yourself and what about the children. The children have every right to have their parents good or bad.
2006-10-30 05:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by dorothysylvester 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only one person that blame can be pointed at, and unfortunately that's your friend. The guy that left her is in no way responsible for yoru friend taking her own life. That was a cowardly and selfish thing to do, especially when there's also her children she should have been thinking of instead of who was / wasn't laying in bed next to her.
2006-10-30 05:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's her fault. I'm sorry but suicide is one of the most selfish things to do. So she leaves her kids behind to what, think it was their fault and grow up an emotional mess. Yeah she was broken hearted but she could've gotten over it. Instead of being unselfish and seen the bigger picture she took the easy way out. Those poor kids. For those that want to go after the guy, they need to grow up and focus on the children that have no mother now. It isn't the guys fault that she did it. Yes it's his fault he broke her heart but that's where it ends.
2006-10-30 05:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is to blame. She should have thought of her children first, and the scar that she would leave on them for the rest of their lives by committing suicide. I feel terrible for the children.
2006-10-30 05:48:54 · answer #11 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋