My partner is a coke addict, some days he's honest about it, some days he denies anything is wrong with him. This weekend was a nightmare! When do you say enough is enough on a 4yr relationship?!
2006-10-30 05:31:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no i'm not a user too! I'm the opposite to him! Unless you've been there, you don't know how hard it is! the good days are phenominal! but the bad are the crappiest! Its hard to not hope the old boyf will come back - to forget how great he was!
2006-10-30 05:38:49 · update #1
I can so help you out right now............When you're sick of tired being sick and tired, walk away! Trust me. It will never get better! I used to be so worried about him sometimes that I would go to his house before classes to see if he ever made it home and his bed was empty. He'd call me at 11:30am and tell me that he was going home to bed and that he had been drinking all night.......whatever......I'm not an idiot. I was an idiot for staying with him so long.......walk honey. Please. It's over. They love cocaine more than us. TRUST ME>
2006-10-30 05:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet 90% of these people here don’t know what they're talking about, they’ve just seen it on Holyoakes or something. my best friend of many years is an on/off addict and it is a very complex issue- he’s very intelligent and successful and in no way a dirty loser living in a squat which I think is what a lot of your respondents think its like. Using coke normally masks deeper psychological problems and it is more emotionally addictive than physical. You will understand that you bf is amazing, and you love him because he is a person not just someone on a blog who does coke. If you really love him and want a future together then you need to get him pro help before he does something stupid, but he can come out the other side. Its an evil drug so if you care about him (and that’s a big ‘if’) then the last thing you should do is dump him- get him clean and do him the biggest favour of his life. Good luck.
2006-10-30 06:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by liveinlondon100 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you're at that point right now because you've asked the question.
You can not keep living only for the "good days." Every day should be phenomenal! Obviously you love and care for your boyfriend but you need to think of yourself first and it's very clear you've had more than enough.
If he's not willing to ditch the addiction to save his relationship you need to let go. You can not keep living this way and be happy at the same time.
2006-10-30 05:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time for somebody to be in your life_would you miss that person if you said enough is enough, can you see your life without that person being around? there must be something there for you to put up with what that person is doing.
DON'T listen to all those non drug takers they dont have a clue they have never tried it or have a clue what goes on. im not saying it's right to be snorting day and night , everyone is different some people do a line now and then and they are cool, some people just cluck one line after another.
does your man want to give it up if it's upseeting you that much you must tell him and explain how he acts when he is 'on it'
goodluck and don't give up on him too soon, after all 4 years is a long time missed. x
2006-10-30 06:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by nefarious_ w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to say enough, you're looking for validation of your thoughts, by the simple fact you've asked the question you know it's over. You need to be someone's drug, not second place to one. If he wants help then that's his choice, but this is hurting you and that needs to stop. You've had four years, of the nightmares, the worries, the questions, help yourself and maybe in time you two can meet again, but I think when you get your head around it all you will realise that you are worth more than someone who treats you like number two.
2006-10-30 05:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzierfelt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it starts to affect you and your life on a regular basis I'd say enough is enough. There is nothing you can do for him if he's not willing to accept that he has a problem. He has to come to terms with it first. If he's lying to you about itafter a 4 yr relationship I'd say that's not good. You could be in a dangerous situation....wrong place at the wrong time and you'll end up in jail. I think it's time for you to save yourself!
2006-10-30 05:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna be mean about it. But I would say it is time now. Its obvious he doesn't care that his habit is hurting your relationship and you have gave him more than enough time to come clean. The ball is in your court now and if I wrere you I would take a firm stand. sure you love him and he may love you too but this habit has to be dealt with immediately its went on way to long. So just buckle down and tell him this is the way it is.
2006-10-30 05:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by curious_59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now! If it's bad enough for you to be posting your question, it's obviously time. 4 years, 4 months. What is the difference if you have had enough. Just be honest and straight with him, he can't be with you so tell him that's why you're walking away. Good luck honey.
2006-10-30 05:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by jeeps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship now!
One of these days you may wake up next to a corpse. 4 years is a long time but can you really stand another 4 like this. Remember it will only get worse.
2006-10-30 05:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that enough came the moment you found out about his habit and the fact you did not is hardly excuse to ask the public their thoughts on the matter
You already know the answer due to the fact that you ask
You are long passed enough and should get out whilst you still can
You never know it might make him clean up a bit
2006-10-30 05:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you a user too? If not, you should have never got caught up in it. I use to be a coke addict too and trust me when he is using, you do not matter! If he won't get help you should better yourself by moving on. Just my opinion.
2006-10-30 05:35:03 · answer #11 · answered by tbear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋