How long have you been together, and what do you do (besides sex) to keep the spark alive. It seems like we change hobbies with the season. Darts for a while, pool for a while, farmers market for a while, restaurants for a while. watching football, trivia, crosswords, whatever. It always changes. Do you ever get stuck in a rut where nothing changes?
2006-10-30 05:30:59 · 29 answers · asked by chefgrille 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and am so happy. I am not bored with him. I was just wondering what other couples do to shake things up a little. Does anyone else change hobbies and come up with new things?
2006-10-30 05:42:50 · update #1
Of course you get stuck in ruts. That's totally normal. My husband and I have been married 6 years in January. We have never yet had a fight. We tend to the little things that let someone know you love them. We leave notes on each others' computer monitors (sticky notes), or mail a card to the other, or a quick text message in the middle of the day. One or the other of us is always doing something sweet. One morning last wek, I came in here and found my favorite coffee that I can't buy here, setting on the counter by my coffeepot. He had ordered it off the internet. I made a pot, and turned on my computer. He had changed my backdrop to a picture of the two of us taken at Disneyland. He changed my screensaver to the scrolling marquee, and it said "Enjoy your coffee and your morning. You are the light of my life." We're always trying to outdo each other without spending much money (cause we don't have much lol)
2006-10-30 05:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by shojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Together 8 years. I think as stated earlier...being best friends is the key. Communication is also a must! Find new things to talk about and keep conversation alive. Do spontaneous, off-the-wall, out of the ordinary to keep things exciting. Keeping the romance in the relationship helps tremendously. I do small gestures on occaision like putting sticky notes that say "I love you" in the bathroom, or putting word magnets on the fridge, and even putting an occasional card in his work briefcase.
When times get really tough, we send the kids off to grandmas and have a weekend get-a-way with a jacuzzi room and some wine.
2006-10-30 14:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone can get stuck in a rut when you get into the routine of life...the key is to stir things up with new activities. By joining clubs together (like wall-climbing, or work-out activities) you can meet other people that are like-minded and make new friends! That also helps expand your horizons by find out what others do for hobbies, etc.
2006-10-30 13:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We are probably boring to some people, most nights we are at home, watching TV, cooking supper together, then maybe a night or two we go out to eat. Saturday or Sunday afternoons we go riding around in the country just to get out. It doesn't really matter what we are doing, we just like being together. We take little trips together ever so often and do stuff with my family; but most of the time its just me and him enjoying each other.
2006-10-30 13:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 4 years now. Of course, I was married before and this is my second husband. I can honestly say things don't get boring between us. We usually joke around and wrestle sometimes. Men like that for some reason. The things you and your hubby does is the same as what me and mine do. We just make sure we take the time and laugh. Also, when we don't agree on something, we make sure we discuss it before it gets out of hand. It's helpful to be best friends with your husband and things will just keep getting better. Good luck.
2006-10-30 13:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been married for one year, it seems like there isn't enought time in our busy schedule. So we try to have theme nights, based on our schedule. I have two jobs and we are both in the Army. And he is now going to school twice a week. You can imagine it can be hectic. Try date night once a month. Take turns on taking each other on a date. Play board games, I think the best thing is to go to an adult store and buy some products or costumes or DVD's to spice things up. We do get stuck and it gets a little boring. But I try to think of things to do. Try a bed and breakfast or a massge parlor.
2006-10-30 13:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by MIA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for five years, and our relationship is very strong. One of the things that separates our relationship from other couples' is that we spend a lot of time together. We have the same interests, hence we come up with new things to do together. We have found ourselves in a rut in the past, but we were able to find something to get us out of it.
2006-10-30 13:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do our best not to let each other get in a rut. We do everything together and share alot of the same interests. We have a good time together just hanging out. That's why it's so important to be friends as well as lovers in a relationship.
2006-10-30 13:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can feel you on the rut thing!! it really sucks, but you have to work at keeping that spark. i think you have to be able to sit down and actually hang out and enjoy eachothers company. changing hobbies is a good thing, just being spontanous 1 day a week makes a big difference. surprise him once a week with something!!
2006-10-30 13:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by browneyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We bowl, cook, take care of the children, watch movies, find new restaurants, plan vacations, take baths, go to the store, go to work, and try to spend time outside of the children, together. This has kept the spark in our marriage. Along with political discussions and just plan talking to each other.
2006-10-30 14:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋