I'm pregnant with my second child and everything is going well so far. I need to tell my parents about this baby but I'm not sure how I can tell them. My first pregnancy was difficult and my parents were really scared for me and the baby. Any suggestions about how I can tell them and make them feel good about this one?
2006-10-30 05:30:54 · 15 answers · asked by ceci_garcia21 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just tell them! :-)
If (God forbid) something were to go wrong with this pregnancy as well, And either you or the baby were sick or in danger, You're going to want/need their love and support...Which they can't even offer, If you don't let them know!!!
They love you, And I'm sure they'd want to know!
Just let them know that as of yet, Everything is fine!!!
2006-10-30 05:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them that THIS pregnancy is not like the first one.
With all pregnancies, there's going to be some fear. Now you have the extra fears of the problems you experienced with the first one.
You do NOT want them associating those two pregnancies together. This is different. Now show them how.
* Are you going to the same doctor? Good, he/she knows your medical history, knows the details of the pregnancy and therefore KNOWS what to watch out for. Your doctor is more prepared to deliver this baby than ever before.
* Are you going to a different doctor? Good. He/she is a fresh set of eyes who inherited your medical history. Anything that the first doctor may have missed, this second dollar will surely catch, Mom. And dad, didn't you say, two heads were better than one? The more doctors who KNOW my case, the better treatment I'll get.
* Is your life more stable? Are you taking better care of yourself than before? See, this pregnancy IS different. I started pre-natal vitamins, I've been exercising, I know how to breathe during labor, I know the signs of labor, I'm eating all the right things AND I'm emotionally/mentally in a better place. I'm at peace with this.
You know your life better than anyone. Start a list of everything (even the season's, your age, etc.) that makes this pregnancy different from the last.
Eventually, your parents will start thinking of this new pregnancy in a different perspective. No longer is this pregnancy number two . . . this is the first pregnancy without complications.
2006-10-30 13:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by MysteriumTremendum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them what you just told all these strangers. You are pregnant and everything is going well so far. Tell them you know how frightening the first pregnancy was for them but you really want another child and you want them to be a part of it from the beginning. They love you and there is no reason to keep this from them.
2006-10-30 13:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Robert P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the pregnancy! My sister almost died when she had her first baby and when she got pregnant on 14 months later my family was very worried for her. She told everyone as soon as her pregnancy test came out positive. As her sister I know she was excited but it created a lot of worry and everyone had to wait weeks to find out if she was going to have the same problems as she did with her first pregnancy. Looking back I know it would have been hard for her to wait to tell everyone but if she had waited til she had gone to the doctor and found out that everything was going well first it would have but us at ease. So that is what I would recommend for you. Visit the doctor first or wait a few months to be sure everything is going well... then tell your family. And invite your mom or dad to the next doctor's appointment if possible. This will do a lot to put their minds at ease and they can spend more time celebrating with you then worrying about you. In the end they might be a little sad you waited to tell them but they will understand why. Good Luck. Hopefully everything goes picture perfect for you this time. :)
2006-10-30 15:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Erin B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and every time I have a child I am still scared of telling my parents. Now I have three it was the hardest telling them about the third one, but I waited till I was 12 weeks and ended up my mom asked me and I said yes and they were happy (my second pregnancy was horrible and difficult too) she was just worried about how my pregnancy would go. so just tell them when you feel confortable, they might be upset but they'll get over it.
2006-10-30 13:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember every pregnancy is different. So just be cause you had a rough one before doesn't mean you will again. I am also pregnant with my second child and I told the grandparents by giving them a book to read to my daughter that was titled "I am a Big Sister." You can also write something on a cake like "we love our grampa and grandma." Good luck and have fun!
2006-10-30 13:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by AB11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know first hand about pregnancy difficulties i have been pregnant twice and wasn't able to carry my babies full term and i don't know what i would have done without my family i think you need to set them down and let them know you need there support I'm sure they will be worried but at the same time they will be happy to share the experience with you good luck
2006-10-30 13:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when you are ready, but tell them not to worry. Let them know any stress you have, can harm your baby. Any parent will worry about their child-it's natural. But keep them updated and let them know all the good news you get, and how well things are going. I would always call my parents after a doctor's appointment and let them know everything. It became exciting. goodluck and congrats!
2006-10-30 13:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing and we give them the ultrasound w/ a nice letter. They kept it and put it in the baby book. I almost died w/ the 1st 1. W/ the 2nd I spent a few months in the hospital on bed rest, but everyone agrees it was long and scary but well worth it.......good luck
2006-10-30 13:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Dianna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them they are going to be grandparents all over again. Tell them you are in the hands of your doctor and the same way you pulled through fine with the first...you will pull through fine with this one as well. GOod luck!
2006-10-30 13:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋