Ho do you leave a situation you really don't want to be in.The guy that I'm with he's the type when he's nice he's really nice and when he's mad he's really an azzzzzz!He can say whatever he wants but you can't say nothing.I have a ten yr old and don't want her in the middle of my shi@.My friend said to leave when he's not here,but I think that would make matters worse.He knows I want to leave I have told him and he just looks at me with this look on his face that's unpredictable.I have a truck but they stole it 2 weeks after I relocated here.But it's in the shop now and it should be ready by next Tuesday.Should I tell him I'm leaving or just do it when he leaves to go to work?I really need help on this.
2006-10-30 05:30:16 · 30 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no i don't think it would make matters worse. just leave when he is not home. it will save you alot of headache! an make a clean break , don't go back for anything. why listen to more of his sh_it!? leave him a letter an get the word in anyway! good luck girl!
2006-10-30 05:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are at all fearful of his reaction, then do not give him any warning. Wait until he's gone to work, pack your stuff and your child and leave. You can consider leaving a note if you want, but I wouldn't even call him. Some men go a little crazy when women leave them, so I would go as far away as possible.
Also, and again this depends on just how scared you are; if I were you, I would let one of your close friends or family members know, or even come over to help you pack. You can call the police and just let them know your situation and that you are leaving.
2006-10-30 13:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has such a change in personality, I would suggest that you get your truck, and go. You said you have told him that you would leave so he won't be totally shocked to find you gone. Your child does not need to be any part of this situation, so remove them before they do. You can talk to him after if you so choose, but I would be very cautious of that also. Your friend gives you good advice, leave when he goes to work.
2006-10-30 13:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very short version of my experience, I'm not trying to make it sound easy because it is never easy.
I just got out of a ten year relationship in July. It took me 2 years to finally say enough is enough. I have 3 children and all I could remember is watching what my mother went through growing up. It really messed up my 2 brothers and myself.
We've all been in bad relationships over and over. My husband became very violent and started doing coke. My children watched him yell and just be nasty to me all of the time as well as blatantly ignore them if he wasn't yelling at them,so I thought hard on it and knowing that he would do everything in his power to try and keep me, I decided that this was it. I didn't want my daughter to grow up and marry a nasty man or my sons to think that this behavior was normal and to treat women with disrespect. I told him to leave he wouldn't, we fought, I put restraining orders on him. Believe me it was the worse year of my life and the hardest. I was sick everyday but I did it. Yes I still love him and it kills me but bottom line, I did it for my kids.
2006-10-30 13:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Suzanne B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many time have I heard the same thing. I teach self defense classes. I hear women saying all the time "I dont like my situation, I want out. What do I do?" Well you just answered your own question. If you want to get out, then do it. There is no in between. I absolutely believe that when you are tired of all the shi^ then you will pack your crap and get the hell out.
2006-10-30 13:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Saints friend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is that abusive to you and you feel your Daughter is under threat or you are frightened, iform the authorities. Get a case number. He doesn't need to know to start off with but more than three reports and the authorities will take action in preventing him from coming anywhere near you or your daughter. Phone them and ask there advice.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 14:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by jaks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave when he is not there is the smartest way to go you don't want your daugher around, just in case he loses it. make sure you get all that is yours so you wont' have to go back. if you leave something, it could be replaced so don't go back. When your all moved out, call him at work and tell him your thinking of ending it. let him discover it on his own. The telling him your thinking about it prepares him when he discovers it, it becomes easier to accept cause he was expecting it, and it should not make it as hard
2006-10-30 13:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the sucker. DO it when hes not there and go somewhere SAFE. You dont want your daughter in the mess and if you stay the chances that she will end up in that kind of relationship are like 90%. You and her need to get out NOW>
2006-10-30 13:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unpredictable, and you don't know what he is capable of doing, then leave when he is at work, don't risk your life and your childs, he isn't your husband, your owner, so you don't need to ask permission or give an explanation for you leaving. Seems you are better off without him. Think about your child.
Good Luck
2006-10-30 13:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by ShellBellzGee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid of him you should just leave without a word. Since he acts like Dr Jekyll and Mr.Hyde, maybe there is no way of telling how he will react, you know him. You don't owe him anything so only tell him if you really want to
2006-10-30 13:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋