i tried doing many thngs like beautician course, to learn astro stiching drawing many things even cooking but not succeeded in anything i try anything and it turns out to be adisaster so pls tell me what to do.i m married and have 1 child.
2006-10-30 05:18:48 · 24 answers · asked by simran 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is clear from your question that you are always in hurry... you even want to learn spontaneously, which is not possible for us human beings.
First, you select… what you really want to learn. Secondly, do you have enough time for learning / studying / attending classes? Have you arranged for your child… like childcare centre etc…?
If yes then forget about every thing except your goal. You will definitely become expert in that trade.
Keep cool... go slow and study...
2006-10-30 05:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Harish Jharia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi , This is vey good question which applies to all people. I think what you require now is just belief. i think you would have heard the saying "faith can move mountains". Have faith in your self. one more thing i can say is you said you tried to do many things. i suggest to start looking deeply into only one skill.
1) first study the at broader level 2) dissect every topic into small parts 3) when you read one page, try to understand the meaning and implement practically. keep on thinking about the same (some people call it madness).. but i will name it as passion.
take the topic to heart. try to implement it practically. once you start loving your skill it doubles and triples.. (my best suggestion is read the book 'The alchemist' )
i can suggest some steps which i normally follow. if i fail in any situation i follow the same.
1) i try to question my self "what the hekk am i doing here?"
2) Why am i doing ?
3) Is it so complex?
4) if any body learn it, then whats the problem with me?
5) whether im not showing more concentration on this?
6) how others are learning it?
i try to observe people and try to get confidence if once i get a small result then i start learning it seriously to get mastery.
This kind of introspection fetched me a lot. Even my job also.
family, husband, son , poor rich nothing can stop you when you have the passion to learn some thing.
I hope this would really help you. i wish you best of luck.
i hope
2006-10-30 15:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by iitsmee20003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind Cool.... You know the problem yourself....
You are depressed and everything turns to be a disaster...
First you remove from your mind that you dont have talent..
secondly think positive and plan the future of your family.
If husband is with you sit together and decide what is best
to be done for the child(son/daughter). Always think that
you can change things as per your dreams...Looking after
the 1year baby is a real big job... keep smiling and with a
clear steady mind take up one job that is important for your
family..No mixing up and confusing...Anything you do will be
perfect and fine ...you can make it so... strong will ... clear
concentration and will power... see the miracle happening..
the word disaster.. disappears like the mist vanishing when
the sun shines... then you will never be depressed.... daily
see the progress of your work.... move towards perfection
God will be blessing you with cheerful and useful life....
2006-10-30 14:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by vasudev s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up hope, you have many talents you just havent found them yet! Everyone is good at something. Dont give up hope! Sometimes talents are made so you have to try different things and find out what your good at! Find out first what subject you succeed in, such as math, english and go from there. Maybe you can work at a bank or work in a grocery store. Or you can even work in a clothestore. Maybe you would be a good writer. Or maybe you can even start your own cleaning business. Your a mom so your already good at cleaning, might as well making money doing it. There are plenty of things, just keep searching and eventually you will find it!
2006-10-30 14:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by thisiswhatisay! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a business consultant/coach. I have helped many many people get the career or busines of their dreams going. It soundsl ike the problem is that you are passionate and good at many things. Most people wouldn;t even try new things and here you are being adventurous and taking the risk of at least trying. Trying IS success!
Perhaps what you need is help in getting into a career or busines that best suits your talents. I'd be happy to help if you would like to e-mail me.
Remember that to some people their work defines them and to others they are happy to work to pay for what they need and want and they find passion and fun in persoinal things that they do. The first step is to decide if it is just a way to make money or a way to make yourself feel more fulfilled...then we go from there!
all the best
2006-10-30 13:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this quote will help. Fall 99 times stand up 100. Keep trying in everything that you do and eventually you will get it right. Stitching, cooking, etc... probably takes a while to master. Everytime you mess up is a learning experience, not a screw up. You learn from your mistakes. Everyone has talent, they just have to take the time to develop it. Just look at Michael Jordan, he did not make the high school basketball team. He practice at school and home and is now a great in the NBA.
2006-10-30 13:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Te 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please sit down in your prayer room in Padamasan. Do not think anything and look at your breathing for 2-3 min. Then start thinking that Power of OM is getting inside you with every breath in and count one when it comes out. Do not force your breath and email me next week. This technique works 100% of the time for me. You are a human being created by the God. "Bade Bhag Manush Tan Pawa". There is no one on the planet who do not have any talent.
You can also do Kapalbhati Pranayam. Buy a VCD of Baba Ramdevji and follow it.
God Bless you, Once you defeat your weak thoughts, forward this Yogic techniques to others.
With Regards
Bhawani Gupta
Canada
2006-10-30 14:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings ! First, you have no disabilities. You have a kid who surely loves you. You are provided with your basic needs.Lots of people do not have ANY of these things. Be thankful of what you have. Happiness is a state of the mind..and not based on how many talents you have or how successful you are... You may have everything on earth but is still not happy.. Appreciating what you have is the first step out of depression. Wake up and look around you... Being a good mother to your kid is talent enough.
2006-10-30 15:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not despair. Everyone is good at something. You just have not discovered yet what your thing is. Try laughing a little at your "disasters" and put it into realistic proportion. Focus on what really really is important. I have an idea for you...focus on being a good Mom. Spend time with your child, talk to him, play games with him, teach him something new (even by learning it first by yourself) and give him all the hugs and kisses you can. If you do well by your child, it is the most important thing that you can ever do.
2006-10-30 13:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lucid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you see a job counsellor where you are? What you also need is someone to help you with your self esteem and confidence. Is there a psychological therapist you can go to?
You definitley have some talent. The very fact that you know that you need help shows that you have a strong head on your shoulders. Its just a matter of finding a right person to help you out. Without your background information like education, city where you live and other demographic information, its hard to help you out. Feel free to send me details email about your self and I will try to respond back.
Cheer up.
2006-10-30 13:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by gay man 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋