Moved from one state to another to be with high school sweetheart.The thing is nothing has gone right for me since I've been here.I'm stress to the max I have had my truck stolen,I have not found a job and it's been six weeks and the worse part I think I jumped into this relationship to fast.I have a ten yr old daughter and I was with her father for 12 yrs and we just seperated about 4 months ago.I don't think I thought this thing out well at all and now that I am here I am miserable.My H.S sweetheart has changed he's not that same ol sweet person I use to talk to on the phone and come to see on weekends.I left a good job behind for this man now I want out.But he's a little hostle when things on't go his way.He can say what he wants,but when I go to voice my opinion all hell breaks loose,please help?I don't want to leave when he isn't here becuz I don't want him comming to look for me.He's a spiteful person.
2006-10-30 05:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's likely that your high school sweetheart was a "way out" of your 4 month separation from your husband. Often times, we look for fulfillment and resolutions in the wrong place. You've made a bad decision and now you have to take responsibility for it. I agree w/ the previous answerer...you should have resolved the marital issue first. With a kid in tow, you should have at least done that. Secondly, you need to set aside your high school sweetheart's spiteful tendencies. You need to get yourself and your child out of situation just as quickly as you got into it.
On the bright side, atleast you've come to the realization that your current situation is unsuitable for you. Now, fix it.
2006-10-30 05:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Petra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one thing is that you should have gotten over your marriage first. And two, with a child of your own, you'd think you'd be mature enough to know that SHE was your first concern, not some guy from your past.
Not to sound spiteful, but did you ever stop to think that you and your HS sweetheart broke up for a reason? And have you never heard that when you break up, stay that way, for the reason you broke up in the first place is still there somewhere.
As for your current situation, just start walking if that's what you've gotta do. But, get out and start protecting your daughter and not worrying about his feelings over hers.
2006-10-30 05:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, I don't think you need a lecture. First of all don't tell your daughter you're leaving. She may mistakenly tell him. I think the idea of going to a shelter is an excellent idea. I would first call your ex and let him know ( if he's willing to help you). If not let SOMEBODY know where you and your daughter are going. You can usually stay in a shelter for 2 wks. and that can be extended. Once there, you can make further arrangements, but until that time you both need to go to a safe place. Good luck to you both and please let us know the outcome.
2006-10-30 06:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by serious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get out, better to do it when he is not at home ,your daughter does not need the drama, Do not worry about what he will do you can always call the police .Now it is time for you to not think of him but think of your daughter, what are you teaching her? you had a choice she did not now is the time to think what is best for her. Get out fast and start a new life depending only on you and making a carefree no drama life for your child . in time the right one will come along
2006-10-30 05:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like you have a lot going on. If I were you I would try to stay as long as it takes to stash some money and set up a place to go. Just try to play it cool and don't get into senseless disagreements. As soon as you have a plan, just do it. But don't jump into another situation without planning everything out.
2006-10-30 05:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you went from one bad situation to another and exposed your child to this abuse not to mention that she doesn't see her father since you moved several states away.
You need to move back to your own life. Think about why you separated from your husband, could things be worked out with counseling?
If you think you are in a bad mental place, think of your child. She must be in a deeper hell.
What you did was selfish and irresponsible - make it right for your child.
2006-10-30 05:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to leave as soon as possible because if these things are happening around your daughter then you need to leave because you don't want your daughter to think that that's how your supposed to be treated when someone loves you and i also think that you definitely rushed into this relationship just a little too fast but most of all please be careful not only are you at risk but your child is also
2006-10-30 05:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by dnelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO REMOVE YOUR DAUGHTER AND YOUR SELF FROM THIS SITUATION. IF YOUR EX-HUSBAND KNEW THE TRUTH ABOUT THIS WOULD HE HELP YOU? (FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS SAKE) IF HE'S A SPITEFUL PERSON AND WILL LOOK FOR YOU THEN FILE A RESTRAINING ORDER AND GET WHILE THE GETTINGS GOOD. PLEASE THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP. ALSO, I'M SURE THERE ARE SHELTERS YOU CAN GO TO FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS SO HE CAN'T FIND YOU. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-30 05:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by claude l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋