im a stay at home mother of three and i dont think i would have the energy to start dating and so forth all over again.
2006-10-30 05:15:27 · 18 answers · asked by lola7737 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to say no I wouldn't forgive him but then my heart tells me that I can't live w/out him. I've never been in that situation to know how I would handle it. About the dating or marrying again, I'd have to say no to that too. I can't imagine my lips touching another mans lips, it would seem wrong. Been with my husband too long to imagine stuff like that. So I guess I'd be single forever.
2006-10-30 05:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely would a have problem forgiving my husband if he cheated on me. Whether or not I'd be able to get married again depends on where I am in life and who I end up meeting. I'm still relative young, so I don't think I would rule out remarrying however I would definitely need some time before I started dating. As I am getting older, I'm noticing with my single friends that it gets harder and harder to date. Meeting new people is hard I think personally.
2006-10-30 05:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is the easy part, its forgetting that is hard. Every ones situation is different, but you can tell if they are sorry or not. They have to make huge efforts in regaining trust back. Its a lot of hard work but if you guys love each other, its worth the effort. I always thought the answer to this question would be NO, but after living through it, obviously my answer is yes, everyone deserves a second chance!
OK would I someday remarry. I always said I wouldn't but I really loved being married. But finding someone this time would be more difficult I think. But time will tell. What I'm saying is, yes, I'm open to it, and I think I will in time.
2006-10-30 06:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters who are forgiven have not faced any consequences and will continue to cheat! You have already lost your partner so why prolong the agony. As for dating again you will eventually but you may never have the sense of deep love and undying trust you did the first time you fell in love. That isn't necessarily a bad thing but needs to be tempered by the realization that the new partner is a different person and should not be burdened with memories of what the old one did. Your man isn't just cheating on you but also on those three children. Divorce him!
2006-10-30 05:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Robert P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat. You CAN move on. I was in the same situation as you are. Believe me, starting over is more like a new beginning and can be fun. There are plenty of worthwhile men who cheat. I had to get a job and change my whole lifestyle which turned out to be the most positive thing I ever did. There is life after leaving a cheating spouse.
2006-10-30 05:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been their, done that. Don't like being alone, would definitely remarry. But first we are to forgive and that should start in the home(bedroom). Just remember, protect yourself, seek medical attention for a std check up and than maybe some counseling. It can work. It worked for me(for a while).
2006-10-30 05:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rodney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise that you give up dating in the future, but you have more pressing issues in your life right now. Your top priority is your children and they must come first. They will take time to heal as they are affected by breakup of a marriage. They will need your help in this and to provide the needs that you must now meet as a single parent.
Second, there is a lot you must come to terms with. You must overcome the pain and sense of betrayal as well as self doubt. It is not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you but it takes time to fully realize this. It could take years to overcome the damage to confidence and self esteem, especially if it was dropped like a bombshell and a complete surprise.
One day you will feel comfortable to date again. Until that time, take care of yourself and your kids. Don't close yourself off though as you never know whom you may meet by chance at a time when you least expect. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 06:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be able to forgive her, but I do not think I could mentally get past it. I would remarry if I were to ever get a divorce, but I would be a lot more careful about it. Luckily, I am not worried about my wife cheating, nor our relationship ending.
2006-10-30 05:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lola,
I can sympathize with what you are going through, I watched my mother struggle with the same dilemma many years ago, and I'll tell you this...............your children will never experience true happiness until you do. Don't deprive yourself of meeting that person that you are meant to be with. your 1st Marriage failed for a reason......and that is.......You are to find that one special someone. I know it sounds like a load of crap! But I speak from experience. My Mother and Father divorced when I was very young, and it wasn't until I was preteens that my Mom found my stepfather.......and I'll tell you since he came into our lives the sun has never stopped shining.
So do it for yourself and your children......you all deserve some happiness. You don't necessarily have to date, but just do things on your own for leisure/pleasure and you'll see the stars will align and you'll meet that someone.
All the best for that pursuit of happiness.
2006-10-30 05:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I could forgive him. I love him. I agreed 15 years ago to love him. He is not perfect. I am not perfect. Nobody is perfect. I would not let one or two nights of pleasure for my husband destroy what we took years to make. It may not be easy but it certainly would be worth it to me to forgive him and move forward with our lives. The love I have for my husband is UNCONDITIONAL and I would not view this any different.
Beside I would NEVER let the other woman win! I am just like that!
2006-10-30 05:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋