OK, here's the situation. Been married over 20 years. My wife is a very attractive 43 year old. Very bubbly, with a lot of friends. She works with a 25 year old guy and they text message each other when they are not at work. While she was away on business, I discovered they had sent a few "I miss you" type messages to each other. I'm beginning to think I should be worried. I thought we had a very close, strong marriage. Should I be worried, or am I being overly suspicious?
2006-10-30 04:59:37 · 27 answers · asked by MS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't believe that it's appropriate for her to be texting her coworker "I miss you" messages. You should probably ask her about her relationship with this man.
2006-10-30 05:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put this knowledge squarely in her court. Tell her it disturbs you greatly and you wish it stop for your well being. She will tell you not to worry. Don't believe her. Start from there. When was the last time she sent you one of those?
You get my point.
She is playing a very dangerous game here. She is messing with a guy who, no matter what he says, is after one thing. It is so easy to play around and get left alone after the marriage is destroyed. Then he says "I never meant for you to leave your husband". You need to get this in the open quickly and as an adult.
This behavior does not necessarily lead to bad things but normally does. It is also a strong statement that she is sharing her affection elswhere. Nothing good can come from this.
Air your reservations and do it soon.
2006-10-30 05:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife. If you have been married over 20 years the communication should be good between the two of you. If she is texting someone that she missing him, you do have something to worry about. Bring this up to your wife and sit down and discuss what is going on. Be prepared to hear what she has to say. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 05:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sending and receiving questionable messages to coworkers of the opposite sex is inappropriate for a married woman. I think your wife needs to be told what you've found.
I'm probably old fashioned, but if I were the man, I'd go have a little chat with Mr. 25 Year Old and tell him to stop "missing" my wife.
2006-10-30 05:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 09:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
43 is the peek of a womens sex drive, we get nuts, like you were when you were 18. Remember? Its the same way, you have no reason not to trust so far, but I have a two friends about the same age as you two and she did leave him for a 20 something guy. I hope that doen't happen to you. good luck
2006-10-30 05:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by poppyspock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be worried about your wife possibly cheating on you. The text messages are proof of that. My husband has done the same to me. So don't worry about you being paranoid.
2006-10-30 12:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by globalsoule 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have a working relationship together, there should be no outside contact and especially not any "I Miss You" notes. I would question her(the wife) and see what is going on. She might not be truthful; ask her how would she like it if another woman was sending you messages.
2006-10-30 05:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be worried. It is common for people to start developing more than friendships in the workplace. The thing is to not let it go further. My husband of 18 years became attracted to a lady he worked with. He even bought gifts for her child. I did find out and confronted him about we. We talked about our relationship and the things that we both needed to work on. He did stop seeing her outside the office and she later moved on. I would definitely talk to her about it
2006-10-30 05:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by julieg_68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely something funny going on. The best way to find out is to see her reaction when you mention the Miss you messages to her. See her reaction. You should by now know when she is lying to you. What you do next is up to you. Good luck. I hope you wife was faithful.
2006-10-30 05:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Wibble 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be very worried but i think you should be asking her this and maybe you will get the answer to your question.. personally at 40 a 25 yr old guy would excite me alot.good luck
2006-10-30 05:07:50 · answer #11 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋