i am an open type person who speaks with anyone freely [i never differentiate boys and girls, all are humans]. but i dont think many like this. they speak to me well but behind my back they are speaking ill about me, why so? why are people doing this. if they wish to say something, why dont they do it to me itself directly? is it wrong to be so much free speaking, open type and bold?
2006-10-30 04:55:09 · 4 answers · asked by priya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been through what you have and sometimes am still conscious of the way people can be when you can easily make friends with others and you are by nature, a friendly person - this is a fantastic quality to have and being open is something that many people cannot acheive and feel resentful of those who demonstrate the ability to be open about themselves with others. I would certainly say that there is some jealousy on their part that you are popular by the very fact that you are a communicative, open and generally a very pleasant person to be around. Some people cannot handle this because they would like to be the same way but hold themselves back for individual reasons.
When I was working in July, before I left my job, I was just like you and because I was just like that with people. This had caused untold resentment with those I worked with and they too, resented me and were very jealous and eventually, they began to resent me to the point that I was being bullied to the point I had left my job because of it. My popularity caused them to show their dislike of me but it was their problem - not mine.
People who are resentful like this, are unhappy themselves and they want you to feel that way, like they do and will try and find ways to bring your self-esteem down and talk about you behind your back. These people are sad for what they do and it is them who need to sort the problem out with themselves. This is their issue, even though they are trying to drag you into their misery of themselves. Don't let them and just be who you are because you do not need to change.
Bullying is not very nice and can cause so much hurt and pain to the one receiving it. Continue to be who you are, not who they want you to be. Changing for others is not going to change the way they are and they will not change towards you, because they already know that you are a great person and this is what they dislike the most. Feel compassion for them that they are the way they are and they are clearly very unhappy to be the way they are, but this is something they need to sort out, not you. You are not the problem at all - they are and if they are unhappy then that is not your responsibility but their own.
You are great! - keep being this, this is who you are and you are not going to change for anyone.
2006-10-30 05:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always good to speak what you feel...but there are some situations, work in particular, where speaknig your mind isn't a good idea at all. If people are talking about you behind your back and you know about it, then confront them and ask why they are doing it...most people will deny it, but it will let them know that what they are saying is getting back to you and they might rethink what they say the next time around.
2006-10-30 13:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No is the answer. It's better than the people who talks behind their backs.
2006-10-30 12:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way i constantly am told im rude!
2006-10-30 12:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋