I am about 80lbs heavier than I was when we first married 12 yrs ago. My wife has not changed at all and really is very gorgeous. I feel bad when we have our time together in the sense that I am able to touch her great body but she doesn't have the same of me. I know I should loose the weight but motivation is tough..any ideas.
2006-10-30 04:49:10 · 14 answers · asked by Notta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This post should be motivation enough. Get your wife involved in your weight loss so that you have a support system. The most important thing is the diet, but exercise will help you lose weight faster. You do not have to starve yourself to lose weight, just watch the calories, and eat a balanced diet. 80 lbs is a lot of extra weight. Trust me, lose the weight and you will feel secure in your relationship. Lose the weight, and you will have more energy. Lose the weight, and you will be in a better mood. Lose the weight, and your sex life will be better than ever.
2006-10-30 04:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has gained some weight and I have remained about the same even after having two children. I guess he gained the weight for me? hehe
Anyways, I know for me at least. I still love him very much and I still find him very attractive.
What is not attractive to me is his own vision of himself and the fact that he gets depressed about it and sometimes makes comments about himself that are not very nice. Confidence is very attractive to me!
I guess when he makes these comments I usually say something nice. But honestly they turn me off! I feel if it really bothered him he would do something about it. Work out more or go outside and play with the children more or work in the garage. I mean really he pretty much sits in front of the TV or the computer than makes comments about being too heavy...........That is not the way to fix it!
Like I said. I still love him no matter what size he is. But I have to admit it would be nice if he would tone up and show me some abs!! OH BABY!!! Would that be nice!
2006-10-30 13:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife how she feels. I'm sure she doesnt care, if she really loves you. However if you think you need to change, that's all the motivation you need. My husband and I are in the same situation. We've both gained weight but he's gained more than I have. I dont feel so great about myself but neither does he. He thinks he's too big and doesnt understand how I can find him attractive, but I do. We both want to start working out together and I want to eat right (he loves food too much he says). Just try to find your motivation and trust that she loves you.
2006-10-30 14:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question IS your answer! That is one reason to loose weight and the other is your health. Take one day at a time and start making good food choices along with food portion. Start taking walks to get yourself ready for some type of exercise program. Small steps equals larger ones down the road. You will start to feel better with more energy and once you see the pounds coming off, that will keep you motivated! Don't forget to drink plenty of water too, that helps to keep you feeling fuller longer and it's important when dieting/exercising.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 13:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by LizBeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she complained? Maybe she married you because she loves you and it has nothing to do with looks or weight. There have been some on here complaining about their wives for gaining weight after having children...they are so shallow it makes me sad for the women. Sounds like you might have a great relationship. Cherish her and the marriage! If you want to lose the weight you will, but do it for yourself, nobody else.
2006-10-30 13:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wife obviously loves you for who you are. You have to want to loose the weight for yourself. You should tak to your wife and tell her how you are feeling and ask her if she will work out with you and help you to try to loose the weight. I'm sure should would want to do anything she could to help you feel better about yourself.
2006-10-30 12:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance ahs gained about 75 lbs since we have been together, and i still ove him as much as ever. If you have a true bond and you really love each other, than weight shouldn't matter. You could try telling her how you feel, and see what she has to say.
2006-10-30 12:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping your wife from dumping you for some other hot stud should be motivation enough.
If she's not as interested in sex any more, that would get me to the gym daily - especially if she's hot!
2006-10-30 12:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping your marriage intacted and now tempting your wife to stray should be motivation enough. Pull it together man!!
2006-10-30 12:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real love does not examine the physique. She loves you for who YOU are. (Men do not understand this because most of them are selfish ******* who do not know the real meaning of the word love). Just be happy, you could die tomorrow.
2006-10-30 14:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋