My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now. My family doesn't have anything against him except the fact that he has been divorced. He was previously married for two months. His ex-wife cheated on him while they were on their honeymoon. And when they got back she said that she wanted to marry this other guy. So my boyfriend did the only thing he new to do, and divorced her. All of this happened about 6 years ago.
Do you think he is free to remarry?
My parents are taking it back to the Bible ( which I believe is good) but they are saying that they believe biblically that under no currcumstances should a divorced persone remarry. I have brought up the Matthew 19:9 verse, but they say that that (exception clause) only applies in a situation like mary and jospeh. So pretty much if my boyfriend would have gotten married, but had not slept with his wife. Then he would be free to divorce her and remarry.
2006-10-30 04:28:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just don't understand why he should have to remain single for the rest of his life because his ex-wife decided she didn't want to be with him.
What do you think???
2006-10-30 04:29:39 · update #1
Divorce has clearly been common throughout the bible. Like war, it is not a desired outcome in the world, but is sometimes the justifiable option.
2006-10-30 04:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is free to remarry, that is nuts. I am sure in some backwoods country they don't believe in it, but ummm this is America. Everyone is free to marry and divorce and get remarried. I understand your parents being biblical and stuff, but they need to come into the 21st century, we don't live in Bible times. I am all about God and the Bible and the sanctity of marriage, but sometimes sh*t happens. They will learn to deal with it one day. If he is who you want to be with, then you need to make yourself happy. Good luck!!
2006-10-30 16:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a catholic. I believe in God, I believe in Jesus Christ, I have read the bible and I love to go to church every Sunday. But I am also divorced. I happens!! People make mistakes in their lives. People change!! It's true that a married couple should try their best to stay married, but it takes two to do so. If one of them is not willing to do the effort, there is only going to be suffering for them. God put us in this world to be happy!! Following Christ's steps, giving and forgiving that is the key to a happy life.
I have a new partner now. I am aware of the rules given by the church. I cannot participate in Communion, but I can still go to the house of God. I can participate of the mass every Sunday and me and my daughter are much happier. I think God would want that!!
2006-10-30 12:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Karin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is free to remarry because his first wife cheated on him. And he divorced her because she wanted a divorce, so I think he has done nothing wrong. If your parents cannot be happy for you, I am sorry for you, but you should definitely marry the guy
2006-10-30 12:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you. There is no reason he should remain single due to this. Sometimes people take the bible too literally and do not realize that the bible was written SO many years ago. It may have been ok for back then, but times have changed and so should we. If you love him and he is a wonderful person, you have to go with what you feel for him, not what your parents feel is right. Only you know what is right for you.
2006-10-30 12:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are wrong! Infidelity is the only reason given in the bible as a reason to divorce. Besides, are you a grown up and able to make your own decisions or must you do what your parents say?
2006-10-30 13:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dovie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can remarry. Cheating is the ONLY grounds for divorce in the Bible. Even God himself detests cheaters. Cheating is the deal breaker.......
2006-10-30 12:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? If it doesn't matter to you then it shouldn't be an issue. No one is perfect and it seems like the mistake was the ex not your boyfriend. You have to decide for yourself.
Remember the Bible was interpreted by men not directly written by God.
2006-10-30 12:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you dont need your parents opinion on this,You are the one who is going to be married to him not your parents, If he is a good guy just stay wit him and dont worry about what people think, would you rather be with a man that was married or with one that has never been married and treats you like crap?
2006-10-30 12:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋