On Thursday 26th october i got took into hospital and when i got there they said that i had a misscarriage is it my fault everyone`s saying that its not and i just cant get over losing this baby i was only 3 months gone but now i just feel empty
2006-10-30 04:20:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No its not your fault! It just happens sometimes. Take some time to pamper yourself, and allow others to pamper you!
2006-10-30 04:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in June 2005, an in June 2006 I had a beautiful baby boy. It took a while to heal, and everyone is different in the time they need. Just dont let anyone tell you that it is something you did. These things just happen. It is much more common than you think. You will feel better in your own time, and don't think that there is a specific time that you should be healed. I still think of my little one lost, but then again I think I would not have my son now either.
My doctor told me the following and it really helped -
1. This is not your fault
2. There was nothing you could do to prevent this from happening
2006-10-30 14:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen it is not your fault it happens to something like 75% of all women, it was not long ago so your hormones are all over the place and u may feel sleepy, weak and sad for a little while but it wont last, and remember that there is always a next time. Rest for a while and get ur strength back and good luck.... and remember that many many women have been through this and came out the other side me included... i have had 3 misses and now have two wonderful boys who i love very much, bad thing always make u more grateful for the good things... take care
2006-10-30 12:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by thenickistar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry to hear that. I suffered a miscarriage in july this year and i also blamed myself. After talking to family and friends i realised it wasn't my fault at all. Miscarriages in the first trimester of pregnancy are extremely common. 1 in 5 women suffer miscarriage at this stage and it is said to be natures way of getting rid of something that isn't right. Meaning that if you had carried on with this pregnancy it would probably have been disabled in some way.
Most people who suffer miscarriages go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies next time round. I myself i am 15 weeks pregnant and everything is fine so far. Talk to your partner because he probably suffering from the loss also and maybe the two of you can get through this together. I wish you the very best in future pregnacies.
2006-10-30 14:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by ollieoops 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so so sorry for your loss, it is not your fault (a little more care maybe needed if you were doing drugs, drinking or anything else that can greater the risk of misscarriage). Not saying you were but still......try again when you feel happy too. The pain will ease but never pass, you will always feel for that baby. Good luck with the future. xx
2006-10-30 12:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Gemma 27.05.2007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its most definitely not ur fault. when i was 16 i fell pregnant and lost it at 3 months id stopped smoking drinking eating crap and i still lost it, i was feeling the same as you, its my fault, what could i have done different. sometimes these things happen for a reason. for me i believe it was god telling me i can have children but now isn't the time. maybe it is the same for u just to let u know one day ur gonna have lovely kids and be a great mum, just dont blame urself let urself grieve. alot of people dont see the need to grieve for an unborn child like they dont matter, but to you it was part of u, a living thing. so u do what you need to to get over this and be strong then one day when u r least expecting it probably u'll be pregnant again fly thro it all with no probs and have a gorgeous lil en and then life begins!
good luck in everything.
xx
2006-10-31 02:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, that's understandable.
Remember that what every one is saying is true- it was not your fault.
It's going to take time, but you will through it, not necessarily get OVER it because that baby was part of you, it's only natural to feel empty.
All I can suggest is that you allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come to you, and stop letting yourself believe that you did something to cause it. The first trimester miscarriages are natures way of ensuring that only those who have the ability to live get the chance. The chances are that your baby had something wrong with it that would have made it incompatible with life. It's sad, but it's natural, and with time you will feel better.
I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope that you feel better soon, honey.
IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT, IT COULDN'T HAVE BEEN PREVENTED, AND YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME.
2006-10-30 14:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey i know how u feel.I had a miscarriage in july this year and i blamed myself for lifting heavy things and not looking after myself.At the end of the day i just said to myself that its gods way of saying that it just wasnt meant to be.Dont blame urself for it cos the way i look at it now is that if the pregnancy carried on there might have been summit seriously wrong with the baby and i was glad in a way that it happened the way it did.I had no signs of the miscarriage,no bleeding,no stomach cramps nuthing.I went for a scan at 9 weeks and saw the baby and the heartbeat.I then went for my 12 week scan and was told that the baby had died.I was devestated and couldnt understand why?I kept blaming myself to but the docs told me that it wasnt my falt and that i was to stop blaming myself.I am just getting back to normal as i have two other kids and trying to get back to normality was rather difficult.If you wanna email me then you can as i know what ur going thru.Chin up and hey have fun making another ;)
2006-10-30 12:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by meg c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a natural feeling. It is not your fault. You feel the sense of loss because the baby was taken from you - a life that was inside you. You will grieve as you would had the baby gone full term. Take comfort to know that the baby is with Jesus now - he knew no sin, so he is in heaven now. God Bless you, and I hope that you find comfort in these words.
2006-10-30 12:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not anything you've done or did, it's just one of those things that happens in pregnancy. Your not alone you have friends and family to lean on. Miscarriage can happen right up until your 5Th month of pregnancy, with no fault of your own. It can be any number of reasons the baby wasn't developing right, The placenta wasn't working. But no sweetie, it's not your fault.
2006-10-30 12:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly hon its not ur fault believe people when they say that, sorry for ur loss but it will get easier to deal with in time, i had a miscarriage last year and it took a while for me to come to terms with the fact that it had happened and in alot of ways i still miss the baby, its understandable that u feel empty i think every woman who goes thru it does feel like this for a while but honestly hon u will learn to deal with it in ur own way but right now u need to make sure u r healthy and give urself time to grieve and get a little pampering coz u deserve it, good luck for the future xxx
2006-10-30 18:37:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋