Please could someone tell me what is wrong with this person?

Question

Right this person happens to be my best friend (regretfully)

This person things they are **** just because they got male hair loss and one of his eyes is cosntantly out of focus

This person does not wash his face...ever or hair (he has long hair but none on top) he refuses to take his hat off unless hes alone sleeping and no one will walk in, has a beard and VERY rarely has a bath or shower by very rarely I mean once every 3 or 4 months

Has really extreme views on everything

Get's unbelievably jelous when I talk to ANYONE

Trys to force his beliefs on me

When I talk to someone he just says I'm never gonna talk to you again, he is so repetative and won't leave me alone ever -even when we argue excessively and I end up taking the piss out of him punching him and so on. Yeah we regularly fight

He will argue excessively with anyone who thinks something different than he does

He's also tried to kill himself

I want to know if anyoen knows what this is or could be

Answer 1

What it is: A sign that you should get far, far, away from this person. A shower every three or four months? How on Earth do you breathe around him?

Answer 2

sounds like he has major issues
depressive perhaps
low self esteem
anger
rage
quite a lot actually but as you say they are all a part of his personality so many things could have led him to be like this
one of them could be lonliness does he have a partner? He seems very self righteous about his opinion being law but i think this is a sign of him bullying his views on others.
Do you enjoy anything about this person? I mean what do you get out of the relationship? What does the fact that you spend so much time with him say about you? Do you feel sorry for him? Do you see him as your only friend? Go out and mix with other people he has issues and a problem with moving on from where he is right now but he could be holding you back if you dont leave his company, try it. see what happens. You should have more than 1 friend and this guy doesnt sound like he appreciates "friends" at all.

Answer 3

He might just have some chemical levels off which is commonly called bipolar. Irrational mood swings, highs and lows, temper mental, overly protective, suicidal.

He also sounds depressed. Won't shower, insecure, feelings of neglect, suicidal.

Has he ever had a break down or anxiety attack? They might be coming if he doesn't already get them which seems like he has anxiety already.

All those times you talk to people while he's around and he blows up and gets aggravated is him feeling neglected. His perception of things are just a little skewed. It's not that you're not talking to him it's just that you're talking to someone else. He sees it as his best friend abandoning him.

Unfortunately if he doesn't want to acknowledge that anything is wrong you might have to hault contact with him. Maybe if you point it out to him when he over reacts he'll catch on (he might not even know he's being that off).

If that doesn't work after a while I would start telling him that if he doesn't go and see someone (whether it's a psychiatrist or just a free clinic with a councilor) you won't be there for him anymore. You can't be his crutch, you can't be his only window to the outside world, and you can't be his only way of venting. It's unhealthy for him and I'm sure you're getting a little tired of it.

Answer 4

It may be that this man, has got the mind set of feeling sorry for himself. He has bitterness held up inside for so long, its showing in his mere lifestyle. He gets jelious, and stubborn at living normal. He wants to be normal, and is unable to make the change. He thinks everyone is against him. Maybe he was made fun of over the years, so if you say anything he lashes out. He is wrong in doing this. Does he have any idea how many people are born or developed such problems, ones so much more serious than his? And so many of these people dont give up, dont hold bitterness, make the best of what they can do or how they look. And it makes all of us healthy people look on with amazement and respect. Your friend has dragged his own self down. He is getting mad over a lil hair loss, and eye problems, NOT A BIG DEAL! Try talking to him, making him see the good side of himself, how he can straighten up, and make all those around him, like and respect him. Have him talk to a perfessional,to open up his feelings and inward hurt. When anyone finally opens up and lets hard feelings go, the happier and change will occur. Your friend needs this help.

Answer 5

He is suffering from severe depression I think abd has very low confidence. By not taking any pride in him self he must be feeling worthless deep down. He needs to see a doctor or maybe you should ask yours for advice. He gets jealous when he sees you talking to someone else and he is clingy because he'll loose you and from the sounds of things he probably doesn't have a lot of friends.

Alot of people will say to leave him and stop being there for him but I think that is the worst thing you could do. He needs help and you sound like you do care about him so offer him your support and try and get his confindence up.

Answer 6

You gave a fair amount of details, which is really good.

To really nail any sort of assessment, you'd probably have to provide someone with some very specific events/instances of his behavior. In terms of psychology, while visible behavior matters (since it's the easiest way we can perceive someone's intentions), motivations are just as important in determining where someone's coming from. Two people with different conditions can exhibit some of the same behaviors.

Your friend shows some very typical "Paranoid" behaviors. He thinks others perceive him negatively. He exhibits jealousy over those who have relationships with him, if they as much as talk to anyone else. They either try to "overwrite" their beliefs on the people surrounding them, or withdraw entirely (or threaten to withdraw, in order to get you to comply with their ideas). This encompasses the arguing as well.

Paranoid people often have the hygiene problems as well, since they're caught up in their internal world.

What makes me unsure is that he still talks to you at all. Often clinically paranoid people will just pull away further and truly cut the relationship. Your friend might just be "paranoid" without the capital "P" (i.e., just really messed up, but not quite psychotic).

And I'm not sure if "paranoid" is what he is at core, or if it's just one trait he exhibits.

Do any of the Paranoid traits fit your friend? (See below) Many of them seem to.

Regardless, your friend will need to see someone professional in-person, if he is to be properly assessed and given the help he needs. My thought here is merely a "first stab" but doesn't take into account any data missing from the description you gave.

Your level of commitment to him as a person will decide how much effort you're going to expend to see this happen, since chances are he won't be amenable to anyone helping him or examining him (and potentially criticizing him).

Answer 7

you have every reason to leave, if you are bound to be a rescuer, read about it it is very addictive and is a no win situation for all who believe that being a care giver is in some way being appreciated, they don't ever get what their looking for and the other person is desparate for things that they want to control, i would try to stay away from people who have no money and want to be a regulator, it hurts to be unappreciated, and you think that if you give more it will help and it only leads to more suffering

Answer 8

It seems to me that this person is suffering from a Mental Health problem. With a self destruct button. For any one to help him he MUST accept that he has a problem. Try to find and organisation "MIND" which is a very good support group for people with these types of problems and also the friends and families of victims of Mental Health. You have not stated whether he has drink/drug problem, which could also have these types of effects on people. Please try and support him, I know it would not be easy, but to desert him when he needs friends, would probably result in a successful suicide bid.

Answer 9

Sounds like he is a manic depressive - but I'm no psychologist.
He sounds massively insecure and in a bid to prove that the world is against just picks fights and arguments wherever he can.
Maybe if he realises that the world isn't against him then he might be less depressed and more pleasant to be around.

Answer 10

Your friend sounds as though he has very low self- esteem and lacks confidence. What is his childhood history. He sounds to me as though he has major issues. He seems to be covering up his weaknesses by using aggressive and disruptive behaviours. Has he suffered from any form of abuse.

Answer 11

Have a word with your local GP about your concerns about your friend, he / she might be able to give some advice and guidance as to his mental welfare, has he lost a relative, job, lately? Make sure that you keep yourself safe and don't give your friend any excuse for an argument, good luck.