I'm a bisexual female and have been in a steady relationship for 2 years. I still find women very attractive and sometimes crave female attention. I love my partner but its getting out of hand. What should I do?
2006-10-30 03:59:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Everyone with a good heart deserves to be happy for life. Being with one person can be hard no matter the sexual orientation. I was married at 15 to a woman. I ran off to Chicago a year later to find myself. I discovered the "gay lifestyle" and had 2 failed gay relationships with dogish men. I settled down with a kind hearted man at 23 and have been with him for 14 years. If str8's have the 7 year itch, then gays have the 4 year itch. I started cheating with another guy, and then a woman from work came on to me. She and I hooked up and I realized that I still enjoyed being with women a lot. I opened up to my life mate and told him about my indiscretions. We had a few 3 ways with some hotties that wanted me, not him. I met some wealthy men and they took very good care of me financially. I justified cheating by profiting from it and sharing with my partner. After having 10 years to sew my wild oats, my partner and I decided to return to monogamy. It's been 5 months and I haven't been with another man or woman. Temptation is always there. I've matured enough, and experienced enough to know that if you really want to make it work with one special person, you can. Bisexuality doesn't make it harder to be faithful. I will be tempted no matter what my orientation. I choose to be monogamous because it makes me happy to commit and relieves the stress of being turned down by people I might persue if I wasn't committed. You have to ask yourself how strong your love for your man is. If it isn't strong enough to be monogamous, then you owe it to your life mate, and yourself, to be honest and give him the option to decide with you the direction your relationship is heading in. Good luck to you.
2006-10-30 04:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think a bisexual can be happy with just one person for the rest of their life.. but it depends on each individual! And their partner! From my own experience I can be totally satisfied with one person, if they're a cracking person and talented ;o) they usually manage to keep me hooked. However, I know what you mean when you say you still find women attractive and sometimes crave female attention...i've been there, maybe that will always be the case just as straight people still find others attractive even though they are "happy" with the relationship they have. I guess as others suggest, speak to your partner if you feel you can, that's where it has to start to get things sorted i'm thinking.
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2006-10-30 19:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by sportyrb2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If heterosexuals are married, can they have a happy existence? Can they be honest, or are they consistently going to be drawn to persons of the different intercourse? i will't say for anybody else, yet I actually have a bisexual female buddy who only celebrated her ith anniversary--she's under no circumstances regarded outdoors her marriage, she says, and that i think her. i've got been with my spouse for 12 years; we those days celebrated an anniversary, too, nevertheless we've been at the same time longer than we've been waiting to legally marry here in Canada. Happiest 12 years of my existence. Being bisexual does not mean you're consistently chasing after the intercourse you do not have. It potential you have greater skill companions to choose from. yet once you're fortunate, you come across the terrific one and supply up looking around -- comparable as with heterosexuals. some people are not solid at dedication or constancy. yet it rather is a controversy with their character, not their orientation.
2016-10-16 13:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is "can any person be happy with just one person for the rest of their life?". Being bisexual sounds like an issue for desires of polyamory because of the whole "I like both" concept, but think of it this way: all straight men and lesbians are potentially attracted to all women. All straight women and gay men are potentially attracted to all men. In the end, however, they choose one out of the lot.
Or some don't. It's called polyamory, and it isn't the exclusive realm of bisexuals. What you need to decide is if your partner is enough for you and the rest is temptation, or if you really aren't monogamous in nature and require both. Then you need to talk it out with your partner if you decide you are polyamorous and see if he/she is accepting of that. If not, another decision must be made- to stay with him/her or find a new relationship.
I always maintain that it is best to be monogamous- not because it's morally superior, but because it is the least complicated of all relationships to try to maintain. All relationships are difficult enough as is, and only those who have true love in their hearts and a dedication to make things work. So I would suggest staying with your current partner. But I encourage you to talk things over with him (I assume it's a him) just so it's out there, while confirming that you aren't going to leave him, but you want him to know that these feelings are there. Maybe he can accomodate you by cross-dressing? (Just a suggestion, it might not appeal).
The only thing I have to say is 'don't cheat'. Don't ever cheat. Talk to him, leave him, start an open relationship so that you can be with women, but don't cheat. It just isn't fair to him.
Hope things work out well!
2006-10-30 15:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your partner know of your feelings? I think if not you should be honest and tell him. You know he might be openminded about it and you could have both. Either way the two of you are the only ones who can work this out. All I can say is don't cheat! That will ruin your relationship all together and if you love him and have put 2 years into it....you don't want that....
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you in the end.
2006-10-30 04:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mandy has it right. Bisexuality is not an excuse for infidelity.
If you cannot talk about this, there will be bigger problems to come.
Honesty & trust are more important than who kissed who last night.
Eventually, after you've had enough sex of whatever kind, you may start to wonder if pleasure ever leads to happiness or just more trouble!
Peace & Good luck!
;-)
2006-10-30 05:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might well just be an emotional need you have. you might just need closer female friends...str8 ones cud the lessie ones might try and seduce you.
It might just be a natural longing for female friends and attention toewards you. Nothing wrong witht hat. But you MUST deicde to be focused as well as your relationship is most important at the mo. See it as a stage in your life
2006-11-01 09:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have anything to do with being bisexual. In bed is a different story, but happiness is the same overall. If you truly love him/her, you will be happy with him/her. If not, than you will get disinterested. In the bedroom though, I would suggest roleplay or fantasies.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 04:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kharm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can anyone be happy with one partner for the rest of their life regardless of their sexuality? I like to think so but I doubt it! Bisexuality doubles your chances of a date on Saturday night! LOL
2006-10-30 04:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lovewilltearusapart 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Depends. You can try to be with a female forever or try to find a understanding man who will let you have a woman here and there.
2006-10-30 04:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by TJ F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋