There's a friend of mine who is married, she found out she is HIV positive about 3 months ago, her husband is the one who infected her with the virus and he admits it as well. He has also cheated during the marriage as well. I did talk her into staying with her husband, but with he's not being supportive whenever things get tough, she just wants to leave. On top of all that, they've got the loveliest child in the world, please help with some words of comfort, guidance and wisdom.
2006-10-30 03:58:11 · 7 answers · asked by DolphinLami 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you think she should stay, why?
2006-10-30 04:04:16 · update #1
how old is the child? how long has she been married to this guy? AIDS can go un-deteced for years, so she may have had this when she was carrying her baby so i think she should get her child tested too...him, he needs to be put out of the home, if he knew he had the virus why didn't he tell her to prevent her getting it too, also people should know that he's a carrier to prevent this disease being passed onto some one else...her life is ruined because of his ignorance and maybe her child's life is ruined too....he should go and she should report him, i have heard of some cases where a person has infected someone else and have gone to jail for it...god bless her and her child. no one deserves to be treated as bad as she has, i hope she has the strength to live her life as normally as possible, as for him, sorry to say this, he's a low life piece of scum...all you can do for her is be there for her when se has her dark moments, support her as much as you can, and try get her to see a councillor, there are some great groups who will help her tackle this terrible disease....god bless her
2006-10-30 04:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be a friend and listen to her. As for the husband with HIV, he sounds like a self centered selfish jerk.
If she finds out he is still cheating or starts cheating again, she should notify the other woman about his HIV status. This guy sounds like he doesn't care who he infects and ultimately kills with his illness. And his illness isn't confined to the HIV...he is mentally ill as well.
2006-10-30 12:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would advise her to try and find some support groups on this issue. She is going to have this to deal with the rest of her life.
I wouldnt have talked her into staying with her husband. She needs to get away from him. She probably will find it difficult to find another mate, but I am sure it has been done. She will find answers with support groups.
2006-10-30 12:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your Friend to see a counsellor with her husband but Friends or no Friends try to keep your distance helping may back fire on you in this kind of situation dear Dave
2006-10-30 12:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
- she shouldn't stay with him and you shouldn't try to persuade her to either. Child or no child, he cheated on her, and then gave her this nasty disease. Just hope the kid doesn't have it.
She should sue his *** and get compensation. I find it rather hard to believe that you are encouraging her to stay - would YOU stay with this scum if he did it to you??!!
2006-10-31 05:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if she should stay or go but he deserves a bloody good kickin the murdering scumbag for knowing he had it and giving it to her.
2006-10-30 13:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry for her, the best thing to do is to stay with her hubby.....jesus christ
2006-10-30 12:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋