Have you known an adult with temper tantrums? What can one do? Cussing, swearing, chucking things about...is this normal? When I came across one such a person, I thought they needed to be institutionalized...otherwise this person functions fairly rationally, until the next upset...fook me.
2006-10-30 03:42:09 · 14 answers · asked by Wisdom 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds like my dad. He used to be like that. Then me and my sister had an idea. We used to joke about his temper when he has finished his tantrums and calmed down a bit. We purposefully talked about it until he's really sorry. It took us a few years, but he has changed much since then. I often threw some fake tantrums in front of him so he could see how it feels like to be in the receiving end.
Personally I detest short-tempered tantrums. I think these people should be closely monitored.
2006-10-30 03:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by netwalker01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A former friend of mine used to throw temper tantrums all the time, she literally acted like a 4-year old. I told her she needed to go to the doctor's office and maybe seek out some therapy. The doctor prescribed her some pills that she stopped taking after a few days and she only went to therapy for a few sessions before she stopped going. I tried to tell her that these were all things that were there to help her, but she didn't listen. From all of the talks that we had I pretty much figure that she was mentally stuck at the age where all of the bad things in her life (family related) occured (about 4-5 years old). The person you described sounds the same way. My friend refused help and in the end I just stopped talking to her. She was emotionally draining and the fact that when she had help right at her fingertips and turned her back on it, that's when I had had enough. I don't think this type of behavior is "normal", I think that some of us just cannot accept what has happened in the past and move on. Some people just hold on to the bad memories and in turn, keep the emotional wounds open. Therapy is the best answer but if your friend is anything like mine he/she may not go quietly.
Feel free to e-mail me if you want better advice on a specific situation or if you just want to talk.
2006-10-30 12:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by honeyleelove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-boyfriend has got the worst temper in the world. He's always had it, ever since he was a kid. He came home once absolutely paralytic and smashed the house to bits, picked up the coffee table and smashed it over my head. It was the middle of the night so i couldn't really do much at the time as my family all live miles away. It's not the first time he did something like that either. I don't know what it is. Something in his head says "go" and he turns into an instant arsehole. Glad to be rid of him. Not my problem anymore!
2006-10-30 12:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to lose my temper very easily - it was due to depression and feeling unwanted, unloved and misunderstood. It can be hard to get a doctor to take depression seriously (I asked for counselling for about 4-5 years before finally being put on a waiting list - meanwhile I was calling the Samaritans on a regular basis...). It's worth pointing them in the direction of some sort of therapy - there are various options available besides counselling. Some people benefit enormously from meditation or from various alternative therapies (e.g. acupuncture, or Indian Head Massage). Good luck!
2006-10-30 12:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you watch Dateline last night? Well, adult anger, violence and temper tantrums and the people who exhibit these tendencies are called "rageaholics". This particular one was VERY bad, but his self medication was CRACK. Yikes. It was insane. These people are dangerous, and need more than therapy. It is a chemical twist in their brain.
Do you know someone like this? If so; suggest they seek counseling, and not just casual, "oh you are angry, why?" This can turn deadly violent. Spoiled brats are one thing, bottled up killers are real.
2006-10-30 11:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get like that until i went to see a doctor and he put it down to depression, once I'd found a job and a decent partner it all stopped.
2006-10-30 11:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by M1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the person is rational; express your feelings.
CLAIM IT: acknowledge 2 yourself that u are feeling something!
NAME IT: ask yourself WHAT u are feeling
angry? sad? Happy? scared?
TAME IT: If a feeling is v.strong you may need to' tone-it-down- a-bit' before u express it to someone.
AIM IT: this is simply expressing what you feel in words or written down to the the person.
If he keeps upsetting you,,,,then throw him out.
hope that helped...goodluck!
2006-10-30 12:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are classes for temper management and the mental health can send this person to them and sometimes for free.
hope this helps you.
2006-10-30 11:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of people with this issue. It's very hard to change, that I know!
2006-10-30 11:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by woodwinman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, they're nut-jobs. What can we do? Ignore as much as possible. I don't think trying to reason with them would help because they're out of control
2006-10-30 11:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋