We will be divorcing soon.
Do you think he is giving me freedom to prove that I can be unfaithful and to influence his divorce case ( he is rich, and we were together for 5 years)
2006-10-30 03:39:11 · 60 answers · asked by janna c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't do anything that will return to haunt you in court. Wait until the decree is final!
2006-10-30 03:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until the divorce is finalized - do you live in a no fault state? He's rich? It's half yours - better start hiding some cash before he spends it on the new chick! I had a savings acct in my daughters name that I put a little of HIS paycheck into each week and was glad I did because we are now divorced after 10 years of misery but I had money saved that he still doesn't know about!
2006-10-30 03:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT.
1. You don't need his blessing (or encouragement) to do anything, especially something dumb.
2. Clean up the mess of this divorce and get it behind you before you start anything.
3. Don't do anything that might influence the outcome of your divorce. If he is rich, you can be assured that he'll trying to find ways to incriminate you and make you look bad.
Do all that you can to be the better person.
2006-10-30 03:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, its not worth it trust me, i dont know the circumstances of the relationship, but dont even dare. cos for what ever reason, its gonna come down on you some day. the society was built for men some how, so what ever he is doing he will be supported somehow too. The bible against fornication, and i wouldnt advice you to go contrary. Let him do whatever he wants to do, might even be a trick question of some sort, but stand yur grounds, wait till d divorce goes through, and then give yurself time to think, what yu want out of a relationship assess the past one and ways of not falling short in the new one.
Good luck my dear.
2006-10-30 03:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by ChuK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right, and will make you happy, personally i would keep my head down and be an angel, Don't let him get one over on you babe! You may not want to take the bastard for all he's got (i personally would) but at least hold your head up high and say that you were mature and didn't play tit for tat!
I don't know why your ex husband is being like this, it could be one of 2 things i reckon,
1) he feels guilty for what he did?
2) He wants to throw it in your face that you cheated too!
2006-10-30 03:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you really cant be that dumb but then again you are cant you see hes using anything just too incriminate you in court WAKE UP dont let him get the best of you what you need to do is let him have his fun you just make sure you get everything you are entitled too the house the car and if their are kids involved the financial support you need then when everything is all said and done do you have a ball consider this a blessing you are a free woman to do and say anything you want and the best part about it is you have more then enough time to find a real man good luck his loss not yours good luck ....E
2006-10-30 03:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not. Like you pointed out , cheating on him will only make his case stronger(even though it is doubtful if it can be called cheating under the circumstances). Get what ever you are entitled to at the divorce and then never look back at him
2006-10-30 03:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definately!!! even though you are separated and awaiting divorce it is still classed has adultery if you meet someone while you are legally married. He seems like a very smart person who is trying to save himself some money. If I was you i would wait, divorces dont take that long and then he wont be able to use things about you that smart your good name, regardless of the money i wouldnt give him the satisfaction!
Good luck xxx
2006-10-31 10:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by looby1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from men until your divorce is final, he is trying to make it your fault the marriage is breaking up.
I hope you can take half of his assets in court, and yeah, I am a guy but this sounds like he is trying to get you to cheat so he can prove something during the divorce hearing.
2006-10-30 03:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Just because he is a cheating, irresponsible lout is no reason for you to lower yourself to his level. Take the high road and make him eat his own guilt in the divorce. After the divorce is final, then you are free to find someone that loves you and deserves your love in return. Don't give in to his manipulations.
2006-10-30 03:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the money....Forget the husband and his wild claims...
Why would you want to destroy your self worth?
You are a good and faithful wife. This is what you will have to offer the next guy you fall in love with.
He may be trying to trick you or he may be the scum of the earth but he has no influence on how you respect yourself and your God.
This is a sin against the Almighty. Let him be doomed...Hold your head high and God will bless you.
2006-10-30 04:00:57 · answer #11 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋