my sister has been going throu a really tough time lately, i see her slowly changing back into her bad lifesyle everyday(sex,drugs, fights, Rebel without a cause). I dont know whats causing it, but i think it might have something to do with this being her Seniour year at high school(its my last year 2). we use to be really close until i started going back to church and she sorta just quit going. Could it be that she feels betrayed by me or something, cause we use to do alot of fun stuff together, go clubbin, skip school 2 go 2 tha movies,partys, etc; i tried talking to her, but she just tells me shes sleepy or has 2 go somewhere. i really care about my sis, please help me. what should i do?
2006-10-30 03:38:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are just growing apart....happens to lots of people. yes it sucks but you have to suck it up and deal with it. *
2006-10-30 03:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you do have really good intentions but do you think that going clubbing and skipping school might not have been the best influence on her?
Find something that you know she likes to do and make a specific time and ask her to come. Tell her you miss hanging out with her and since it's your last year at school together, you want to spend time with her. Don't be offended if she says no, just keep trying until you get a definite answer from her as to why she is avoiding you. Tell her you feel bad about it. It sounds as if there may be other family problems that would lead her to be a fighter. Would she get help, if that is the case, from a woman counsellor?
2006-10-30 03:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister has a lot of signs of depression-sometimes something can cause it or it just might be a chemical imbalance. Maybe her being her senior year in HS could be it, maybe she is scared of what is to come becuase it is not clear. The first thing I would suggest is to sit down with her and have a real long candid talk- make sure u emphasize that u do care about her...if something did happen to her to change her behavior u need to know. Hope it helps!
2006-10-30 03:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her.
Better yet, write her a letter.
Put it under her door, or leave it on the table (sealed and addressed to her of course)
Heck, mail it if you have to...
When I can't "talk" to my wife after a fight, writing a letter gives me two benefits:
1. I have time to find the right words, and
2. people will tend to read a letter over listen to someone talk, especially if she does feel betrayed.
2006-10-30 03:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Joel Sopp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
write her a letter saying how much you care about her and tell her how you're feeling and have been feeling. Be open and honest in the letter but try not to attack her. If you were in that position, what would you want to hear?
2006-10-30 03:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she definitely needs help - and maybe some counseling. The drugs are probably at the heart of the issue. Best of luck!!
2006-10-30 03:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by akelaamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start acting like her and maybe she will change her mind and stop being a witchy person or give her some attention that is all that she wants
2006-10-30 03:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly you are growing it is bound to happen she will come back .. secondly quit church they have brain washed you. Your sister was lucky enough to get away but this Jesus guy is a serious head ***** and I tells ya if you let him he will ***** you up big time you will loose your friends family and most importantly your dignity.
2006-10-30 03:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and tell her you are worried. tell her she can tell you anything and you will always be there for her. if it gets really bad see family counseling, but just between the two of you. good luck and i hope everything works out.
2006-10-30 03:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love ur sister then help her
talk her to the hospital to get redemedy from drugs
then ask her about they guy she date with to know more about him and if he play with her or not
and be close to her as u used to be
and try to listen to her and dont attack her just try to give her advices to take off of its bad life and get back good girl as before
2006-10-30 03:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know this i really hard, all you going thru with her and all, but remember, yu got one Father, close friend and confidant, and He will alwys listen toyou and help you out. His name is God, ask Him he will direct you on what to do. ask Him, luv jst ask HIM.
2006-10-30 03:52:36 · answer #11 · answered by ChuK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋