We've had Christmas party with my two friends and our families every year. Tt's only always been us...Well this year our friend met someone else who, we don't like, and she wants to invite her fam to our party, and exchange gifts with them too.. But this friend she wants to invite, does nothing to include us in anything, like call us or even says hey when our other friend isnt around her. It's like she pretends to like me and our friend. I really don't want her there, and I dont know how to tell her without her getting mad or upset. I dont want to be selfish, but I dont want to buy a gift for someone who pretends to like me. Thanks in advance!
2006-10-30 03:23:58 · 19 answers · asked by sshhmmee2000 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell her !
It's not rude !
Be frank !
2006-10-30 03:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So easy. Pick up your phone and ask your friend 1. Will you have a soft corner for me if I am sad - The answer must be Yes. 2. Will you dislike the person who hurts me, knowingly - The answer must be Yes. 3. Will you like me if I say some truth. and forgive me if you don't appreciate it. The answer should be Yes.
Now tell that you want to share your concern with him/her. Tell him/her as to what you want say. Tell him/her firmly. Tell him/her that please help to solve my problem. Tel to forgive him if you hurt her/him. I hope your friend will agree with you. The truth has power. Gandhi a great man in India had have a number of experiments with truth just to know the findings that ultimately the Truth wins.
I hope you will get want you want.
2006-10-30 11:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by dev k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gift exchange is a tricky subject. You should be honest with your friend and tell her that you don't know the new friend as well as you'd like and don't feel comfortable exchanging gifts with her and her family yet.
Otherwise, you can suck it up and get her something small. We all have to do things in life that we don't particularly care to do.
2006-10-30 11:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that it's a tradition between the three families and suggest that you guys hang out with the new friend some other time. You might just have to suck it up and deal with the new friend later, but at least you can blame this part on tradition.
2006-10-30 11:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by Annette J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it invitation only. Thats a lot of presents. Tell her you can't afford to buy more gifts and maybe the 'other' friend can't afford gifts for everybody either. Does everybody feel the same as you? You and your one friend could tell her together.
2006-10-30 11:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the spirit of the Christmas season I think it would be nice to include her. As a matter of fact I think it would be nice if YOU invited her yourself. She may warm up to you. Maybe there is a little bit of jealousy with the shared friend and all. Maybe she would warm up to you if you invited her. It is good to have a number of good friends.
2006-10-30 11:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your other friend need to talk to this friend and tell her how you feel about her other friend. Be nice about it, but be upfront and honest. If she invites her friend anyway, just don't buy a gift, and tell your friend that and to tell the other friend not to buy you a gift. Good luck.
2006-10-30 11:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gracious and allow the other friend to attend. One of the best lessons to learn in life is how to rub elbows with people we don't necessarily want to spend time with. In this world, we all will meet, work with and be forced to be around people we don't like very much, and learning to graciously accept them as part of life is invaluable.
2006-10-30 11:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u dont want her there , tell ur friend that this is a party only 4 friends that u kno well. and for family members, then she should tell her friend that she cant come to ur party!!
I HOPE IT HELPS U? HAVE A GOOD ONE!!
:)
2006-10-30 11:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, That you have stick, with the tradition of only the original guest list, No room for extra poeple
2006-10-30 11:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the Christmas party has always been special and you don't want to change your ritual.
2006-10-30 11:42:43 · answer #11 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋