I just moved two hours away from most of my family members, due to a new amazing job. We haven't had a family get together since the summer. This past Saturday apparently my Aunt had a HUGE Halloween party. Invited all the family even the family from out of town. Well, no one called and invited me. On Saturday at 4 my uncle (who also lives two hours away from the family) called me and goes, When will you be here, I can't wait to see you? I of course asked him what he was talking about, and he goes, aren't you coming to the party? I told him this was news to me!!! And he goes, didn't anyone call you to invite you? I told him nope, and immediately I was pissed? This isn't the first time they failed to invite me to a family function? Wouldn't you be highly pissed?!?!!?! What would you do next, let the family know you are mad or what??
2006-10-30 03:22:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am very sorry for the situation you are in, yes I would be hurt and upset. I would definitely bring it up to your aunt or a family member to ask what is going on. Try to clear the air to see if it was merely a mistake and your aunt forgot to invite you, or if there is an underlying problem. You'd be surprised what people get into their heads that will spark lashing out.
I know how you feel though, just as an example, my husband and I recently got married and were told by a couple that they were not going to be able to make it to our wedding. We were kind of hurt at first because they are very close to us but we understood, well we ended up coming up short on invitations so we decided not to send them one so we could use it on someone else and they told us time and time again they weren't going to make it. Well the weddings comes to pass and a month later is their 2 year old son's birthday party which we always go to. We never got invited to this party because come to find out they couldn't believe how awful we were to not send them an invite despite them telling us they couldn't come. We had no idea they were raging mad at us and so I stopped feeling bad about not being invited to their kid's birthday party because my husband and I had no idea!
So check to see if maybe something was done or said that has caused a problem and try to work it out if that be the case. I know it's difficult to handle because it hurts when family does something like that to you, but remember you moved to better yourself and to accept an offer you couldn't refuse, if your family does not understand that then I would talk to them, if talking doesn't work, maybe it's time to back off and give them some space. Try to keep in touch and maintain a good relationship with your immediate family such as parents or siblings, but if an aunt is upset with you for some reason and the problem can't be solved, use your best judgement and react accordingly. Good luck and congrats on your new job.
2006-10-30 04:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by maldmb03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it might have been an overlook on their part. If you do have a big family it could be an honest mistake. Find out the facts first before you start going off the handle.
2006-10-30 12:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by turnertot1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT'S MESSED UP I WOULD BE REALLY PISSED OFF TOO
after that i would go to the party and ask them why didn't you invite me
2006-10-30 11:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by °The Earth Goddess° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of cores i would be mad, But you have to think that probable your relatives were too busy getting their things together for the party, or they were thinking you had already been invited,
2006-10-30 11:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by christy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah
but forgive them, your anger will pass, ask why you were neglected and that it hurts deeply to treated insignificantly.
then set up a time and place for a gathering next year, a hall, auditorium, your house etc. and invite everybody
2006-10-30 11:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad too, but it could have been a mistake. Maybe they thought someone lese would tell you or something...Famlies are crazy, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt
2006-10-30 11:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first don't get mad may be you where just over looked..
play it cool and talk to you're aunt ,do you ever just call to say hello. better to have a little Faith in you're family...good luck
2006-10-30 11:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by reneyhun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I wouldbe pissed, and yes, I would let the family know.
2006-10-30 11:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by telling them that you are hurt that they didn't invite you, and go from there.
2006-10-30 12:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they forgot I would find out the facts
2006-10-30 11:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋