Why do the black women at work hate me?

Question

There are a group of black women at work, who work as general labors. Some look at me very meanly, only a couple say hello to me. I have long blonde hair and they are always dogging my hair and other saying other mean things behind my back, which use to hurt my feelings. I keep to myself and don't even work with these girls. Why can't they leave me out of their gossip? I try to get along with everyone

Answer 1

I have a question for you. Why do the white girls at work hate me? The tables are turned at my job. I am always kind, respectful, and courteous. But they are always cold and very fake. They are very quick to hope I make a mistake. It could be a color thing, but also remember that sometimes it's just a girl thing. If you have something they envy, they won't like you. Girls are very jealous. And you are the one that stands our because you're white. It's easier to be a target when you're different. Don't let it bother you. Just stay nice and be happy. God Bless!

Answer 2

Maybe they feel uncomfortable with you. Unfortunately, you don't fit in. However, you need to show these women that you are a very nice person. Have you tried going up to them and introducing yourself? Maybe they feel that you think you're superior because they're general laborers and you're not. You said yourself that you "keep to yourself" a lot at work, and that you feel that you "don't even work with them." Maybe they percieve this as snobbery on your part. If you just go up to them and say, "Hi, I'm _______. How's it going?" they might see that you're really a person worth getting to know, and they might stop gossiping about you. In my experience, people tend to gossip and spread rumors about other people when they feel threatened or intimidated by them. Try to break down those barriers. The worst that could happen is that they might still be mean to you, right to your face. If that happens, you should then try your best to ignore them. If it gets unbearable, see your manager about it. Remember, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar- and sometimes all it takes to turn an enemy into a friend is a smile. : )

Answer 3

Just ignore them (if that's the case).

I asked a similar question the only difference was that I was black and the other women were white.

I don't have to say a word, they just roll thier eyes and make smart remarks when I ask for help.

The answerer's stated that it was probally because of the way I present myself.

Personally, I know that I am not disrespectful to anyone unless they disrespect me first.

They disrespected me simply because I am younger and more attractive than they are ( I guess they expected all black women to be fat, ghetto and ugly, suprise, suprise).

It's not just a race thing, it's a woman thing.






People tend to pick on obvious differences.

Answer 4

Okay baby girl lets me start by saying hello and how your doing today. Now how you just ask that question that didn't come out just the right way. everybody hate on everybody it's not just the color of your skin it's all skin color,and if you talk like that towards them thats probably why they don't like you, you better be lucky they just talk about you and they don't try to hurt you cause thats not how you come out and asks questions like that. If you ask something like that mean your at work have a nasty attiude towards them cause you probably have something against african americans. thats what we are call african americans. so if everybody read what you wrote their going to know thats why the women pick on you cause you don't know how to talk to the ladies in the correct way, so maybe if you learn that you will be alright and they will respect you....

Answer 5

Sweety don't get upset over spilled milk. I'm a Black Female myself, one thing about some black women they love to talk about other women. All I have to say is you must got what they want, they wish they had it. That's only one reason black women like to about other women. Since you are at a work place they may be fear of their job. That you can get promoted before they do. Don't cry and don't get upset, just walk into work and just smile and tell them have a nice day today Lady's. That will eat them up. And it will show them that you don't care what they say about you. I will tell you they are going to talk about you even more. Because they going to say, she thinks that she better then us. But last but least, you must have a black men and they want him. But, keep your head up gurl!!!

Answer 6

Ive never met a black woman with long natural blonde hair. could it be they are a little jealous?
Some people have nothing better to do than talk smack to try and make themselves feel better. They are probably just generally miserable people and you probably appear to be an easy target for their jokes. Chin up.
if it gets really bad... its up to your employer to see that you have a good and safe workplace environment. They are obligated to intervene in cases of abuse like you ve been receiving.

Answer 7

Many blacks, (and my son in law is black but my family is caucasian) I personally believe that due to their long history of submission, being treated poorly, and bigotry of whites against blacks that often times their response to caucasians is a result of long standing fear, mistrust suspicion and skepticism of whites spanning many generations to the point it is part of the normal behavior of many of them. In otherwords, resentment. Depending on their own personal experiences they can be more like this or less like this adn act out accordingly. If they come from families with long standing resentment for whites, and then personal experience heaps more justification for their beliefs on them, then they may become rather defensive a click-ish. Same can be said of whites coming from bigotted families. Or rich people who traditionally have loathed "poor commoners". etc., etc. If your whole extended family had been dogged by another group of people, wouldn't you become a little defensive as a result?

Answer 8

So stop trying to get along with everyone.What I mean is be polite but quit caring so much what others think. If you're a good person that is all that matters. What goes around comes around. Be true to yourself and treat others as you would like to be treated.

Answer 9

I am a black woman and honestly, black women just have such an unfounded hatred for each other and for other women, but usually just aganist other black women. I think that its insecurity. Some black women have this crazy idea that other women are out to get them and or their men. There mean because they are jealous.

I wouldnt start acting like them, I would just ignore them and smile in their face... if its really bad either confront them or find another job.

Answer 10

Everyone can get jealous in life. As a pretty Indian girl, I get alot of girls feeling insecure in India itself! It happens everywhere. Dont jum p to conclusions. Concentrate on work and leave everything to empty vessels to talk. Just be yourself honey