I read this in an article. It suggests that reaction or yelling back actually empowers the other person.
2006-10-30 03:14:41 · 15 answers · asked by Kindred 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Best is to stay quiet. A person that puts down others lacks self es team and other issues and wants confrontation so they can prove to themselves they have some worth.
To be quiet shows it doesn't effect you and the person will move on.
Like they say.....silence is bliss.
2006-10-30 03:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work in a big box store. There isn't a day where some customer doesn't make me feel small. I usually let it pass and they go on their way.
Last year before Christmas I had a customer giving me a hard time and I was trying to ignore him. So after spending ten harrowing minutes telling him about the one item, he made up his mind. I was a bit frustrated and it must have shown because he told a lady that was waiting for her turn :"She's getting angry" I answered that I was not angry just a bit frustrated and that he had never seen me angry. His response to that was "Are you threatening me?". So I shut up, gave him his stuff and thank him. I could feel my face get red and I was so unhappy. Some people get a high out of embarrassing other in public and it's true that it empowers them. Sometimes the right thing to do is to walk away or ignore the bastards. I'm good at my job. I'm friendly, funny knowledgeable, but there's always somebody who lurks around the corner and is waiting to ruin my day by being an @ss. That's all for now. Cheers =)
2006-10-30 03:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone is trying to make u feel small it's more than likely they don't feel very good about themseves. i would confront the attitude or behavior depeding on what the situation is. the intent is to make themselves look or feel better but it does'nt. they can only make u feel small if u let them. its a state of mind. if it's a so called friend lose that friend. they are not ur friend! in the bussiness im in i have delt with it all my life and i have learned that as long as im ok with myself and it shows the more people will try to bring u down. you will have to figue out the best way to handle people like that. but you do have stick up for yourself! engaging in thier negative banter is never healthy. that means don't get suck in to thier negativity. if it doesn't apply to you who cares! you have to pick ur battles. some just are'nt worth dealing with. when they see they can't get to you it will piss them off and they will either stop or probably keep at it. this is where you learn what ur made of! i hope i helped u and good luck
2006-10-30 03:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by wherismybluchair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. If you react, it lets the person know that they have succeeded in making you feel small. The best thing is to just let them go on and make a fool of themselves.
2006-10-30 03:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by deesjeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true. If you react, then they have acheived what they set out to do.
Plus, no one can make you feel small without your permission. If they attempt to make you feel small, you can just shrug your shoulders and walk off. Or you can accept that they made you feel small by reacting to what they're doing. When you react, it shows that you believe them. If you just shrug, you didn't accept it.
T's much better to just shrug and walk away. It frustrates them, because it makes them feel stupid. Hah!! Just let it roll off your back like water on a duck.
2006-10-30 03:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i'm like 6'4" and it is almost empowering when i stand next to a short person and they freak out when they realize i'm right there. So if you just don't acknowledge they are there no joke they will get bored and leave
2006-10-30 03:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by fearb4themarch815 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experienced this myself, and I think it is best to keep silent.
I have heard that when a person belittles another, or puts you down they have low self esteem so you arent the one with the problem. If you react, you could be asking for trouble. Kill em with kindness is my motto....
2006-10-30 04:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to remain silent and later make them realise the mistake they have done.
2006-10-30 03:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sharmila G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people that have to belittle someone else to make up for there own lack of self esteem have issues enough, when someone "thinks" they have the best of you just turn as you smile knowing they have bigger issues :)
2006-10-30 03:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by terry717_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe you should remain silent, but sometimes it is so hard you just want to scream, but you have to stop and think that, that is exactly how they want you to react so just let it go and take a deep breathe
2006-10-30 03:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by linda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋