my husband loves fishing, goes as often as he can. Great... but he has now made a website so the computer after work gets more attention than me.
specialistfishing
am i ok to moan do you think?
2006-10-30 03:12:12 · 32 answers · asked by emz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give it a little while and let him get the site up and running,
then see if he starts to give you more attention,
if he does not then you should start asking for some time with him or remind him that he is married to a woman not a computer.
if that does not work you should start telling him to satisfy himself in other ways with the computer as well, if you know what i mean.
2006-10-30 03:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Moan only when making whoopie... moaning about the computer in the "computer age" will only make things worse... he could be out drinking his pay check away or chasing other women so just chill... maybe try to draw him away with some sexy talks and such but do not become a nag!
2006-10-30 03:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by P!ss Ant 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should encourage him to do the things he loves, and support him the best you can. He's your husband just trust he loves you, and let yours flow, he should respond accordingly. If you punish him with moaning his stubborn *** will like a dog not know why and simply feel betrayed. If you give him treats he will also like a dog, become faithful and loving. They could be as small as tiny words of encouragement. Dont reward him for ignoring you, but let him obsess on a passion thats healthy like fishing, or he:ll look for a new passion. cough.
2006-10-30 03:24:05
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best of love and luck
Hobbies are good (keep him out of mischief) but if you feel neglected you should get him to spend more time with you. Make it fun for you both, though. Don't ask him to stop something he enjoys just to sit with you while the soaps are on. Do something that makes you interact with eachother. Take a walk or drive or play a boardgame.
I see things from your husbands side very well. My wife would complain if I was away from her all the time, but watches hours of tv when I stay in and hardly speaks to me.
Conclusion?
Play fair.
2006-10-30 03:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a right to moan i am on my computer every minute of the day and night when not at work i have medical reasons though why not make life irresistible for him my dear if it doesn't work you have been beat by a cold blooded fish ha ha good luck Dave
2006-10-30 04:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn the fun in fishing, discuss fishing with him as if you are so knowledgable (You'll have to research quite a bit before you can bring this up!). This way you'll have a common interest and probably get close with him.
If he is OK with it, learn about his site and chip in ideas to make it better, this will also get you closer as a couple. But moaning is a no no option, as men, it drives us away.
2006-10-30 03:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by kenyanmartin2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, talk it through, blah, blah, blah. Sure, that all sounds easy enough, but what if it doesn't work, right? Well, unplug the damn thing. Take the modem away and only let him know where it is after you have made arrangements to have quality time. If he doesn't deliver on his promise, then do it again. Might sound drastic, but at least you will be getting the point across.
2006-10-30 03:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Interaction and communication is what makes relationships grow and prosper.
The lack of both will ultimatly cause great pain and distance. Your better to sort things out now rather then later on when your feelings are more clouded.
Sit him down and tell him how you feel, then listen to how he feels. After this is done work on a solution that will make both of you happy.
2006-10-30 03:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband loves fishing also, and billards, now he's added internet surfing , yahoo answers ,his 360 page and learning how to play guitar via internet. The computer room is now- his zone unless he's gone. I understand and sympathize.And oh yeah, you have the right to ***** and moan about it.
2006-10-30 03:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi, am at the moment in the middle of a very painful seperation with my wife and 1 of the contributing factors is the computer, i work from 4 am till 12 ish and i would in the past come home , grab a beer and sit on the pc all afternoon, and just let my wife get on with her life, (how selfish and stupid was i to think that she would want to stay with me the way i was treating her) please please discuss this with your husband and MAKE him listen to you, i wish i had listened to my wife, hopefully for you it is not as serious as it is for me, this seperation has made me do real soul searching and hopefully if we get back together my pc is way way down my list of things to do, im not saying do anything as drastic as seperate, but maybe show him my answer and he will realise that you are 1000000000 times more important than a pc, ive learnt that now . best wishes Russ
2006-10-30 03:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by tractortribe@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋