what could you do if someone love you and say he/she could attempt suicide if you don't love him/her back?

Question

notice: you don't love him/her.

Add: he/she is very likely going to do that.

Answer 1

My ex husband did that to me, and he actually went through with the suicide attempt.

The fact is that it didn't make me love him, and I told him that it didn't. I came to realize that I'm not responsible for his actions, just as I couldn't make myself love him.

Regarless of the threats, you can't make yourself feel something that you don't. Tell them that and move on.

Answer 2

Believe them! I told my boyfiriend that if thats what he truely wated to do then to do it, what do you want when and if it happens and he told me to bring flowers I said what kind and he said any they all smell good. He died from two shot gun wonunds in his car about 6 to 8 mos. later if I had known he were serious I would have done things differetnly get him help! Get him pamplets to read. Give him the 24 hour 7 day a week 800 number. be understanding listen to him and pray for him. I loved him he was my neighbor 11 years older then I and when I were old eough we dated... He was like a brother, a best friend and a lover... It is stupid for someone to hold loving someone else over your head but it happens and sometimes it has happened to me and I walked away anyway and the guy didn't do anything - you just never can tell.. Tell him he is being unfair wrong and that he needs help he may have a chemical imbalance.

Answer 3

This is a very difficult situation. However, even though this person has said this, it will not create new feeling for you toward them. This person has an issue with loving them self. They have allowed their opinion of themselves to be so low, till they need someone else in their life to be happy. This is a manipulative way to get what they want, but it is not what they need. What they need is some professional help. You really need to get away from this person. You can't help them, they need to help their self. You can suggest to them what you think they should do, but it will ultimately be their decision to make an effort to heal them self. Love is not a trap and that is just what you will be in if you oblige this person by giving them what they want and not be honest with them and tell them that you don't love them. You will truly be miserable. Get away from them before they try to harm you.

Answer 4

You can't do anything other than recommend that they get professional help. Feel sorry for them, but don't be guilted into anything with them. It sounds harsh, someone thinking about committing suicide will eventually do so if they really mean it.

Telling them what they want to hear just makes facing the truth even more difficult.

If you're able to contact their family, do so and let them know what's going on. They need professional help.

Answer 5

Then I would tell a family member of his/or hers and tell them what she is doing. They might be just saying that to keep you in their life. The person should not be staying with someone because the other is sick in the head. They need help and therapy if they are really suicidal. I think it is rather stupid if you ask me there are so many people in this world why end your life over someone.

Answer 6

This is so frightening ..
Just the very thought of this person that is trying to hold onto you with such threats is sickening,
You care, I can feel this however this person has got a really problem and it can get out of hand one day down the road, that he or she can and will hurt you.
This person is weak and very selfish.
Waste not another day with this person, because your Gift of love should never be wasted or ever be given with such threats,
walk away and don't look back be strong and be truthful to yourself.
Because it's you and your very Beautiful Gift of your inner Love that matters.
Because the way that this person is trying to hold on to you is so wrong and so sickening,
let him or her do what they want to do with their life,
But don't let him or her take you do with them.
And be strong, but watch your back, and that is not to frighten you, it's just to make you aware of this sick person.

Answer 7

This person needs serious mental help. THere is nothing you can do. Don't pretend to love them, I would just be honest and get the heck out of there. If they do try to commit suicide, it isn't your fault...its bound to happen anyways! See if you can get them some help. Then leave.

Answer 8

I actually have had this experience. My ex husband was cruel and vicious during our very long marriage. I loved him with all m,y heart, but he cheated on me, lied, stole, etc...

When I finally gave up on him and left the marriage, he called crying all of th time (daily) threatening that if I didn't come back that he would kill himself. He was mentally ill, but would not ackowledge it. I had to move on to save myself and I knew that he would likely try to commit suicide. I had to be clear in my mind that it wasn't my fault. I loved him and treated him well, but got so tired and needed to move on.

The long and short was that when I didn't cave in, he tried it on other people in his life and got them to baby him. Eventually, he let go enough to move on with his life.

Answer 9

Tell them to go ahead. Ask how you can help in the matter.
Call their bluff. If they are using this to keep you around. It is no place to be. Leave them and find someone who can be normal and not stoop to this level to keep your attention.

If you actually love them get them help.

Answer 10

This is blackmail, and the easiest thing for you to do is put some space between you and this person..... when asked for a date, put them off, don't say no, just put them off. don't be at your house, or move in with someone else for awhile....just become unavailable....in the meantime, suggest that this person talks a few times to a therapist.....