When I married her she was 21 and in the big mess. She was a prostitute in monaco, and i got her out of it.
One month into marriage she told me she is pregnant and demanded one million dollars to be put into her account, otherwise she will abort our child. I managed to keep her waiting for that money until it was too late to do the abortion :-) But the relationships went downhill from there , she said i cheated her by not paying.
We lived together for 5 years, she was abusive and rude to me, called me ugly, old, bold and old and disgusting..She is bright so she graduated at the top of her course and even got into London School of Economics for masters.
2 years after our son was born she cheated on me, than abandonned our son and dissapeared for 2 months hooking again.Thank came back demanding maintenance and kid. She was about the loose the case, and i still loved her, so i took her back.
But now I meet a girl of my dreams and want to re-marry. Do you think i will get a custody?
2006-10-30 02:47:40 · 28 answers · asked by Nikolaj B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have not being involved in childs life a lot up until now - my wife was. She was a good mother and changed her lifestyle a lot after marriage. She became a successful student and got a good job a year ago, but than droped it to study for masters recently.. She has being a model mother for the last two years and now comes across as a highly educated and smart woman. However I am sure she will revert to prostitution because she is very greedy and can't resist the money.
I have to admit that after all the rejection i reverted to drugs and have a cocain addiction which I am currently treating. I am 47 and my wife is 27. I have being arrested recently with drugs and currently released on bail. I am hoping to get a suspended sentence.
My wife doesn't do anything at the moment, just studies, but she found out about a girlfriend and is threatening with divorce now. I am afraid she is about to take me to cleaners.
2006-10-30 03:06:00 · update #1
Sounds like you have a good case to win custody of your son. I would pursue that before getting involved in a marriage. Focus on getting your son in a stable environment first.
2006-10-30 02:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is amongst all this instability. The courts will be looking out for, first and foremost, for the best interests of the child and the child will be the courts main priority. You have been through this before and know what to expect because you say that she was losing the case and you fell for her charms and dropped the matter. Obviously, you were winning then! At the end of the day please think about the child in the middle of all this and the fact that the child will love both parents, whom at this moment in time, do not appear to be offering any stability in their life.
Seek legal advice from a Family Lawyer. You can still try again for custody. Put forward a new application to the courts. You have to show the courts that you can provide a safe environment for the child and the ability to cater for the childs needs. Put the child first.
God bless and good luck.
2006-10-30 09:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Zawadi88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you are a recovering coke addict, right? If so, then your chances for getting custody -- provided your wife knows about your addictions -- are very slim. I have a friend who has been sober for over 10 years and he still can't get custody of his son. He has a really good job, a new wife and two beatutiful kids, while his ex is a cashier at Wal-Mart with virtually no other prospects. But still, the courts have been unwilling to entrust him with custody because of his past.
However, given that your wife is a hooker, or so you say, that would definitely work against her. But courts typically rule based on the best interests of the child. I'd say, in your case, it's probably a toss up. To get custody, you would have to prove that the child's best interests would be served by you and not the mother. In other words, you would have to prove that the child is actually in danger or being neglected -- which would be pretty easy because, as you say, she abandoned the child.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 03:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not have a problem getting custody. It sounds like she can easily be bought off without a fight. That would be the easiest thing. Offer her some quick cash in exchange for a quick divorce and custody of the child. If all she truly cares about is money, she will take it. Leave the new woman out of this, and keep your distance from her until you settle this.
2006-10-30 03:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you will get custody with no problem I mean what kind of mother would leave her own child to slep around w/ filthy men for money? It sounds like she would of had it made with you. Fight her in court and dont back down this time I dont think she will have a chance in hell of getting custody unless her lawyer is one of her own personal clients. If you found someone that will make you happy then go for it I hope everything works out for the best.
2006-10-30 03:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a terrible situation to be in at the end of the day you realised what she was like when you got into this relationship and the worst thing you have done is taken her back. that unfortunately will prove to the courts that she is not that bad a person. but also just because she has been this way towards you it does not prove that she is bad to your child so. most probably you wont get full custody but you need hard proof that she is indangering the child to get custody. sorry
2006-10-30 03:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by the little helper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I claim to have no training in the area of Family Law, I do think you have a strong chance as you can provide a stable home, loving family environment, proper support... ect. While her given "occupation" will certainly not be favourable for her, I think the fact she abandoned the child is your strongest defence. I wouldn't worry about the fact you dropped your last case and took her back... I would simply insist to the Court you were doing it to for the child and thinking only in his best interests.
My suggestion to you is to get a fantastic Family Law Solicitor and go at it head first. If your last case was strong, your forthcoming marriage and stable environment will only make this suit stronger.
Best of luck!
2006-10-30 03:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you on about? You are as bad as eachother, at least she is working hard and tries to achieve something by studying, the only thing you achieve is to get high and get in and out of jail. Are you sure your son would be better of with you? Why haven't you taken part in his life? You have no excuse for critising her, you knew what she was when you met her. Get your life sorted out first and then you can start slowly building your relationship with your son. After that you can think about custody!
2006-10-30 03:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she demanded a lot funds or she might have aborted the baby, it style of feels you have a penny or 2 approximately, so get your self a solid solicitor, and you may desire to get custody. while for the divorce settlement, i'm affraid she might get 50% of your sources. If I have been you, i might deny ever seeing this different female which you rather desire to remarry - save her out of the photograph in the intervening time in case the courtroom desperate on your spouse's favour, for the income of your baby not being 'traumatised' when you consider which you entered right into a sparkling courting, however the baby is unfamiliar with this new individual in his existence.
2016-10-16 13:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said anything about your background or your bad habits so it's impossible to say. I'm sure you have checked but are you 100% sure the child is yours?
If you can provide a good home for the child, you should have a good chance of getting custody.
2006-10-30 02:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋