My boyfriend and I dated for about 2 1/2 months before commiting to a relationship and now that we have been in one, I am so in love with him and I think I want to marry him. What is too soon?
2006-10-30 02:45:37 · 23 answers · asked by violet.starr 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe in long courtships and short engagements. Two months is a terribly short time to be able to get to know someone. For now, just enjoy the company of each other as you both see what path the other is on.... are you really travelling in the same direction or is this just a detour for one of you?
Time is a friend in these situations. It will filter out the truth of who you both are: what are your goals; how do you handle stress; what happens when you get frustrated; etc. These are things you both will want to know.
So be fair to both of you. Date for 1 year and if you are still going as strong as you are now, then get engaged and married. I know 1 year sounds like a long time, but if you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone it's hardly any time at all...
2006-10-30 02:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can begin discussing marriage about 6 months after meeting but the engagement should not come until 2 years later. You should be engaged for a least 1-2 years. Overall you are looking at a 4-5 yr relationship~
2006-10-30 03:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Husband and I dated for 34 days before we got married 3 years ago and 2 babies later. I had a baby from a previous relationship though. We went on our first date and by the 3rd we knew we were getting married. alot of family members said we were crazy and told us we wouldnt make it a year. We just knew that it was ment to be. yes we have had our spats but so far so great. we did talk about marrage though. I told him that marrage was forever, and I dont belive in divorce. it is untill death do us part. when ever it feels right its the right time. We didnt have a big expensive wedding. we got married at the court house and had a shower 2 weeks later. i would do it all over again. if you are inlove with eachother and you feel like its time then go for it!!
2006-10-30 02:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mommyof3under3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait at least 1 year or more. Right now, you are both showing each other your best side. Give some time to the relationship and you will start to see things that he does that bother you. It's at that point when you decide if the things that he does can be tolerated for the REST OF YOUR LIFE!
2006-10-30 02:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that 2 months is too soon. Although it depends on your relationship. In my experiences however, I have found that it takes at least 1 year to KNOW someone and even then there could be secrets.
2006-10-30 03:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real answer to that question because everybody is different. I've know people getting married within the first year and staying together - people getting married after 10 years together and only last 2 years married - people getting married after 20 years together. Everybody is different. If you feel this strongly about it than you should casually mention it.
2006-10-30 02:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how he feels about you. Some people (my parents for example) only dated for 3 months before they decided to get married. They've been married for 20 years and are still happily married. Its not only how you feel, its how he feels too. I also hope you have not been living together because that's what also causes a guy want to delay marriage.
2006-10-30 02:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
21/2 months is too soon if i was you i would wait until you have been with him 6 to 8 months then ask him about his feelings for you if he's in love ,love with you then ask him about his felling on marriage ,if he just likes you then Wait until you two have together a year & ask again about marriage
2006-10-30 02:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband dated for 1 1/2 years before we got engaged and then we waited until we were going on three years being together before we got married now we have been married for five years happily with two wonderful kids
2006-10-30 02:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by samm5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you both feel. I was with my now husband for seven yrs. before we got married but I also know people who got married with in months of meeting each other and they are very happy. It was better for me to wait but it's up to you to decided when it's right for you both.Good Luck in your relationship!
2006-10-30 02:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋