my first cousin Lana is my best friend and cousin she is 8 years younger than me i am 25 and she is 17she has 2 children and one on the way she has a 3 year old daughter Karla and a 1 year old daughter Hanna and 6 months oreg with a boy she got married at 16 to a 39 year old man she i am 25 and preganant with my first child she asked me for help heres the question should she put this baby up for adoption and go back to school i want her to go back to school but i dont know what to tell her about the adoption part what should i tell her i need your help
2006-10-30 02:44:07 · 9 answers · asked by ♥ NïJâ♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
she should do both ...there is plenty of help for mothers going back to school because we are not the traditional aged students. she may regret trying to get somewhere without her baby..especially if she becomes a successful person academically. if i can do it she can too...mine are 5,4,and 3 yrs old ..it's not easy but i know my rewards will be well worth the time and sacrifice.
What's up with her husband? i'm single and and doing it..she should have his support or get rid of him.
2006-10-30 02:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by cool_spicy_springroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you dont mean to be rude but she made her bed, now she must lay in it. She chose to lay down and spread her legs..... why would she sentence an innocent child to a life of wondering why his parents didnt want him? It was her choice not to be on birth control and shes not stupid, she knows that there are conciquences to having sex with no birth control. Explain to her that she can still go back to school. There are programs that will help her with child care All she has to do is look around. She chose to become a parent so young and now she cant go back. Just reassure her that everything will work out for the best.
2006-10-30 10:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A baby needs a loving home. The child must come first.
If she wants to go back to school she could get a baby sitter for the baby and still go to school. She should maybe check with day care centers about baby sitting.. I heard there is some type of government help where they will pay the day care center for the child while you go to school to get your high school diploma
2006-10-30 10:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard for her to put a baby up for adoption. Have you thought about bringing up a tubal ligation? That could get the conversation started and then if she has thought about adoption, she could bring it up with you. Let her be the first one to mention it because some people can be really sensitive about that. Good luck.
2006-10-30 10:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is old enough to have 2 children, and another on the way - She is old enough to decide what is best for her and her family.
I also don't think you should be plastering her and her kids names all over the net, for the world to know!
2006-10-30 10:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Kazbaz ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a decision she needs to make on her own.If she is married her husband needs to also decide.She is very young to be a mother.Going back to school is never a bad idea.Not to be mean you need to talk to her about birth control.Where are her parents in this?
2006-10-30 10:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can keep the baby and attend school. but if she feels it neccery to give the child up for adoption she should
2006-10-30 10:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by outlaw64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only your cousin can answer that question it is her choice you just be there for her no matter what.
2006-10-30 10:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Renee F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about she just starts using protection and stops spitting out iligitimate babies and fleecing us tax payers!!
2006-10-30 11:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by вℓαмє_¢αиα∂α 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋