2006-10-30 02:32:08 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have one child not his, he is a recovering alcoholic and has been very bad to me hence confidence shattered i feel i am just getting out of his control but when he contacts me it so hard to break the cycle
2006-10-30 02:45:36 · update #1
Why is he coming to visit - do you have kids? If you don't have kids don't have him visit? If you do, be as polite as possible and count the minutes until he's gone...
2006-10-30 02:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he not very nice now, or just indifferent?
I mean we need to know...
If he is no longer the sweet, loving guy you married , and if he is infact mean, hurtful, or even violent (ofcourse I do not suppose he is the latter, or you would not be allowing him to visit) just ....well... here is a strange piece of advice, that I follow as a Professional driver, "ALWAYS LEAVE AN OUT".
keep looking in your mirrors, so to speak...
Do you have children with this man.
Does he love them?
would he harm you or others, kids, the dog, etc.?
If not, then...JUST BE YOURSELF.
Do you still have feelings for him? I noticed the question does not say, ex Husband...
So what/ where is he comming from?
Is he a SOLDIER ?
We need more info/ ADD DETAILS, so we can better understand what is going on, and so, give you better advice.
otherwise, just talk to him, try to use this time to come closer together...Remember what it was that brought you two together in the first place, and go from there.
DJH
2006-10-30 10:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by djyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there children involved? Just the 2 of you? You had something strong enough at one point to get you in a married state. Play it by ear, see how it goes. Respect the idea of love.
2006-10-30 10:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by kick it 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you've been talking reconciliation or not, if not you might be better off having him stay at a hotel. Always remember what went wrong, just in case. People can change their behaviors if they really want to, but it doesn't happen that often.
Anyway, good luck and hope his visit is all that you want it to be.
2006-10-30 10:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting him visit???????? not being funny but i know what it feels like to have been controlled and when i got out of the relationship i wouldn't let my ex back in to my house after. if you let him then he still has control. what do you think he will do to you if you say no? come on this is your chance to make break and start a new life so take it please!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-02 06:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stun gun just incase. Yeah the hotel is a good idea and so is the dog house.
If you don't want him to come then tell him you will meet him somewhere plubic.
2006-10-30 10:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you concerned? Do you still harbour feelings for him? Many couples have got back together you know!
If you're worried because he may try it on, and your not interested - then get him to stay in a local hostelry.
2006-10-30 10:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by mark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he coming to visit. Are there kids involved and if not then are there still feelings there between the two of you.???
2006-10-30 10:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable having him stay in the house with you ask him to book a hotel.
2006-10-30 10:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two days...any nights? If so, get him to book into a hotel. You have kids together? If not, why is he staying so long? I'd keep him at arms length and keep it light.
2006-10-30 10:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋