Please expound abit. No one or two word answers please.
2006-10-30 02:16:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happily married for nearly 9 years and this is what I have discovered:
1. Pray together every day. Try to apply Biblical principles to your lives. God created marriage and His rule book can show you how to keep it together.
2. Be very open and honest about everything. Secrets separate and causes mistrust and disappointments.
3.Laugh together often. Even if it has to be evoked by a good silly movie, it is wonderful to do it together.
4. Don't allow anyone to say negative things to you about your spouse. You stay in each others corner and stand up for each other. Don't discuss your personal matters with other people. If they try to be nosy and pry, tell them to mind their business!!
5. Don't allow anything or anyone come in between you (Money, children, in-laws, friends, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!)
6. Try to out love each other. If the other person gave you a back rub next time give them a full massage. Show your love by sacrificing your self to display to them that the most important object of your affection.
7. Keep open lines of communication about everything,(finances, likes and dislikes, interest, concerns)The other person is not a mind reader. Don't be afraid to talk to the other person about a touchy subject. Pray about and approach it with tenderness and sympathy, as you would want them to deal with you.
8. Sex is very important!!! Make sure you are real about what feels good and what does not. Be open and honest to discuss it. Tell each other what you need and expect in the bedroom, or whatever room you choose to explore in! You belong to each other only and it is important to keep one another satisfied.
Hope this is beneficial to you!!
Be Blessed!!
2006-10-30 02:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Moma C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say respect, - don't put them down or belittle them, trust -if you can't trust them both of ya'll with be miserable the whole time, spice - don't let things settle permanatly into a routine, every once in a while do something different so that each of you knows something fun and exciting will be happening, and of course sex - when two people that love each other have sex, this is the thing that keeps ya'll apart from the rest of the world. What happens in your bedroom is only shared by the two of you and no matter what ya'll do in there (can get a little freaky if ya want) it's your special bond.
2006-10-30 02:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 08:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience, communication and an honest and true UNCONDITIONAL love for each other.
I think the willingness to accept and adapt to changes is the best secret to a good marriage there is.
Try to understand the other person point of view at the time they are going through it and be there in a non-judgmental way.
And never, ever, ever mention the D-word! You both have to understand that is NOT an option!
2006-10-30 03:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication and Allowing the other person space to be themselves.. Just cuz you love cars or shoes, doesn't mean the other person has too but you have to find a happy medium for both of you.. No marriage is ever 50-50, some days are 40-50 or 5-95 but dont ever let it get that low.. I have been with my wife for about 12 years now and we make sure to spice up our marriage still and make sure that both are being satisfied.. oh, and dont ever go to bed angry at one another.. you will always end up cuddling anyways and feel stupid in the morning when you are supposed to be angry at one another.. and you will get a better nites rest anyway...
2006-10-30 02:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by staycandlevon 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The secret to a good marriage is true love, respect, communication , compatability, and passion just wanting the good for each other and feeling the ultimate joy of having this certain person in your life to the point you love and respect them 100% because when you truly love them, you do nothing and I mean nothing to hurt them. When you respect them, nothing or nobody can come between that respect which equates to no cheating on your mate.
When your compabitable, your on the same level as far as your needs and wants out of life.
You can't expect that if you like to stay home and your spouse like to party all the time that your marriage is going to work because it probably won't not with constant bickering and arguing for your mate to stay home destroying the fabric of the marriage.
Communication is definitely needed because it is very fundamental in letting your spouse know how you feel or discussing any issues with your spouse.
Compassion is needed because it allows both mates to want the best for each other and feel when each other might not be feeling okay and compassion is the avenue to let your spouse know you feeling their daily thoughts and moods.
Passion is needed because you should want your spouse in a physical manner and if you are fortunate to be with someone who makes your heart go pitter patter as soon as you see them that is passion because many marriages are sexless which is one of the first signs your marriage is heading for doom.
So again if you have true love, respect, passion, compability, communication, and compassion, your off to a good start.
2006-10-30 02:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess every relationship is different but my opinion on a great marriage/relationship includes the following basic elements:
Trust
Honesty
Communication
Attraction
Love
Compromise
Doing nice things for each other "just because"
Faithfulness
It's keeping the fire alive too...keep things spicy by always trying new things and mixing up everyday mundane life once in awhile
I'm no expert, but I hope this helps.
2006-10-30 02:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question! Communication, respect, be friends, laugh together and stuff together, support each other, help or suggest instead of criticizing, meet each other's need, work like a team when it comes to doing things around the house after all thats what you are.
2006-10-30 02:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I met my husband in Church. He grew up with very great morals that's hard to find these days. Talking and always being honest with each other is a good place to start. Married 14 years hope this helps.
2006-10-30 02:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Care Bear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do something nice for your partner each and every day. Communicate. Do new things together whether your comfortable or not. Keep in touch often. Have joint friends as well as seperate friends. Take vacations together but small get aways with your friends. Cook for each other. Enjoy life together...good luck.
2006-10-30 02:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋