2006-10-30 02:14:01 · 10 answers · asked by Brandis Diann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well sweetheart, just remember it is not you. It is not your fault. There is nothing you can do. They have to work things out for themselves. All you can do is pray and try to understand why they are getting a divorce. I know it is hard. You have to try and put yourself in thier shoes. Is it best for them if they are apart? You may not know these things, but sit down with them and let them explain to you what has happen. Then you will get better understanding. It is not going to be the end of the world, but it will be a big change. If this is going to make both parents happier then there is not much you can do. I am sorry.
I wish you the best.
Look at it this way, there might be a little more activity for you as the child. You will have to learn to make the best of both worlds. I know this doesn't make you feel better, I am sorry once again. It does help handling the situation if you can understand them more.
HUGS)))
2006-10-30 02:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to save their relationship. The best thing you can do is understand that it is their problem not yours, although it will effect your lifestyle it should not effect how they feel about you. Things will be weird for a while and one of your parents might be hurt more than the other by the end of their marriage, But it is NOT your fault. Sometimes people just can't live together anymore...even if they still love one another. Talk to your parents about how you feel. Let them know if you are worried or scared about the future. Let them know you still love both of them and that you don't want to have to choose between them if that's how you feel. Always remember that their relationship has nothing to do with how they feel about you...best wishes...
PS. Don't be afraid to talk to your school counselor about what is going on at home...that's what they are there for....
2006-10-30 10:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you as divorce is never easy for anyone involved. As for you kids. . .don't take sides, be none judgmental, and love them both unconditionally. They are both still your parents and always will be, so let them battle it out while you stay out of the way. Don't let them use you to bounce their issues off of you. Stay neutral! Remember all the good things you can about both parents and keep loving them! The divorce is NOT YOUR FAULT remember that! Good luck to you!
2006-10-30 10:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by fannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just understand it is not your fault. Divorce never stops to consider the ones it hurst the most (the children). I went thru a divorce myself and it was rough but it was better for my children in the long run because me and my ex fought all the time and that wasn't good for the kids to see. Now me and my ex are civil to one another and actually get along well.
2006-10-30 10:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them tell them your feelings. This is their decision you cannot change what they are doing. Your parents hopefully will listen to your concerns and fears but this does not mean they do not love you. There are different types of love the love they have for you is unconditional. The love they had for each other is romantic and it sometimes falter. If your parents will not listen then seek counseling. good Luck
2006-10-30 10:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's their divorce, don't pick sides, just be supportive and don't get in the middle of it all. If it's going to happen there is nothing you can do.
2006-10-30 10:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by jojokiowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In what way? You don't give any details, how old you are, if you have to choose a parent to live with...sorry, need to know exactly what your question is.
2006-10-30 10:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are two adults who have to make up their own mind..there is nothing you can do..just be supportive, love them equally and dont choose sides. also, dont let yourself be used as a pawn i their divorce.
2006-10-30 10:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grieve......your previous expectations have ended.....Not totally unlucky although feeling can seem this way.....you will develope new expectations......most likely with a stronger foundation of reality......time......time....time......grieve for a while then begin to open up again......investigate the human condition, thinking, feelings......step by step.......be very gentle with yourself........step by step......gentle with everyone....step by step......
2006-10-30 10:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by buddhanature 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-30 10:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋